Can a friendship overcome infertility struggles?

[lakedistricthillwalker]

I can only imagine that she is going through hell and I don't want to make it all about me, but I feel let down by her.

We're both 35. The rest of our friends have all married and had children, so during the past few years we got closer. I've been single since I was 21 and struggling to date and obviously she was ttc.

I recently met someone and he's just lovely. I am so happy, but she's completely stopped texting me. We used to message every day. I miss her and I feel a bit used tbh- she was all for hearing about all my crappy dates with strange men!

Has she had any particular setback recently that she might be dealing with? Failed IVF cycle, miscarriage, new diagnosis? Or she might just be in a bleak place and imagining you’ll be pregnant soon while she’s been trying for years.

She’s probably happy for you but very sad for herself. Everyone I know struggling with infertility (myself included) has lost friends for a variety of reasons - sometimes it’s too hard to see everyone move on while you feel stuck, it’s too hard hearing people talk about their kids all the time, or friends just can’t relate to what you’re going through. If the friendship is important to you keep trying to get through to her but it’s understandable to step back if you’re not getting much in return.

You’ve been single for 14 years and have met a lovely guy. And her first reaction is to ignore you. She’s a shit friend