NC because I don't want said neighbour figuring out it's me.
I'll preface by explaining I have BPD, OCD, Depression and Anxiety hence my difficulty in escaping my situation.
I made friends with a new neighbour she seemed fun enough to hang around with occasionally and for a while it improved my MH to have a friend and someone to have fun with. I was really very very lonely before only having DH and kids. Things have spiralled absolutely horribly to the point I think I am trapped and have no escape from this relationship.
She is in an abusive relationship both her and her DP throw things at each other and are horribly violent to each other especially her towards him - grabbing him around the throat and smacking him at least once a week. They have several children who are rude, demanding and undisciplined except for being screamed at and occasionally hit which no longer bothers the children as they have gotten so used to it and know that no matter what threats are made they'll never happen.
He works and she leans on me all the time, she also has BPD, I don't work I am disabled due to my MH and DH is my carer she expects me to drop everything I am doing no matter who it is with to spend time drinking with her 3 or 4 times a week. I can't afford it, I don't enjoy it and I don't want to do it anymore but I'm not allowed she will call, text, knock on my door and constantly guilt trip me into doing what she wants to do. I'm scared of her - she is violent and I have seen her go after ex friends and even strangers. She won't let me have any sort of life that doesn't involve her and I think it's going to destroy my marriage and relationship with my kids.
I know it sounds like excuses but my MH and past trauma means I become very very anxious about upsetting people and even sitting her typing this feels like such a betrayal I can feel a panic attack trying to begin.
I can't escape her, she goes after my husband and my kids if she can't get me.
I'm so tired and I just don't know what to do anymore. She wants to attend Drs appointments with me, family days out, wants me to go on her dates and will never ever let me have a break from the constant neediness.
I don't want to upset things as before I became friendly with her we couldn't even use our back garden because of the way she acted towards us and I've appealed to her so many times to let me breath but she always gets me to go to the shops with her or something and then tells me we are drinking and then my anxiety and absurd need to people please kicks in and I end up going along with it.