How did you improve areas of your life you wasn’t happy with?

[Justanotherlostsoul]

Didn’t know where else to post but I NC for this as no one in real life knows how I feel.
I hate my life.
I have an amazing ds and partner but I don’t feel content.
My job makes me unhappy but I’ve had 5 jobs in 2 years because there isn’t any job I enjoy, I get fed up and quit. I have no ambition or dreams for a career so I take whatever I can and hope for the best despite knowing I will quit and it will all build up on my CV making it harder to find something else.
I hate my home. I’ve spent a fortune making it nice but it’s an awful area with awful neighbours and I’ll never be able to leave. I dream of the day I move out to a nice new home in a lovely area where I can be happy but we can’t find anyone desperate enough to want this house (social housing so exchange required and no one will move here by choice)
I’ve let myself go through stress and sadness so I’ve gained more weight than I’ve ever weighed before. I can’t seem to lose it even with calorie counting and exercise. My downfall was comfort eating cakes and 2 ltr full fat Coke a day but I’ve learned some control and stopped that and still no loss.
I desperately want another baby but I have fertility issues and haven’t had a natural period for 2 years despite being in my 20’s. I’m scared I’ll never have another child.
I tried to help myself by contacting a counsellor for advice who said he won’t help me because I need to stop moaning and do something about it. This made me clam up into myself more as I felt like I was over reacting so I never asked for help again even from my partner.
I don’t feel like I’m depressed although I know that’ll be most peoples thought, I’m just unhappy with the way my life is right now and no matter how hard I try to improve things it never works out well for me. I try hard at work but still fail. I try hard to move house and get turned down. I try and lose weight and work on myself mentally and nothing improves. I have no family and only one friend so I’m completely alone in my thoughts.

My life is spent waiting for the clock hands to pass by so I can go to bed and start it again the next day. There’s no enjoyment for me anymore. I don’t know what to do, I just want a fresh start where I can be happy in my life and with my family but I’m constantly battered down to the ground.

I’m sorry you’re feeling like this. For starters I would try another counsellor - that one sounds very unprofessional!

I don’t have any advice for you but just wanted to offer a kind word.

Maybe you feel that you have so many problems that they all become muddled up and you can't see a way clear. Perhaps if you just made one change, if it's going on a diet or perhaps thinking about training for something, or meditating - anything. Do that for a while and see if it makes you feel any better.

If it helps to hear it, meditating just for a small amount of time daily has really helped me, more than I ever would have thought.

Thank you both, I think you’re right I’m so overwhelmed with all the negativity I can’t focus on one thing at a time. I don’t even know where to start. I wish I could sleep for a month and wake up to everything be just right.

You have an amazing partner and ds. That's a start, focus on the positives here. If I were you I would focus on self care, that would be the first step. Once you feel more energised you can make plans in terms of jobs/opportunities, moving home or other things you want to do. So things like getting some exercise time, even if it's just a walk on your own to get rid of the cobwebs and improve your mood and energy. Think about things you used to enjoy and bring them back...maybe you liked to read or play netball back in the day, see if you can find time to fit it (whatever it is) back into your life. You need to find your mojo by looking after yourself....the rest will follow

Thank you

You are amazing! You have a house, husband, child and job! You are doing brilliantly.

1. stop the negative self talk
2. you are the creator of your new life, you are in control so bring things you enjoy in
3. I am lucky to have jobs I enjoy but if you don’t take pride in doing a good job. Learn how to do it really well, look at courses you can take to get you to the next level. If you work with customers form a good relationship with them.
4. Eat food you love in small quantities, drink lots of water and up the exercise. I walk,jog or squat in front of theTV.

Realistically you will probably be able to move soon.

Divorced him