V stressed and tearful

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Need somewhere to vent so I don't give my (incredibly kind and patient) DP yet another snotty phonecall while he's at the office.
In the middle of negotiating dates for house sale/purchase. Have been 'on the cusp of exchange' in a broad way for about a month, but actually expecting it to happen that same day since Thursday last week. Each day I start out convinced it will happen, each afternoon I start losing hope.

I have a council to argue with about a school place and a removals company to book, both of which require exchange documents.

I am working for an.... intense London based organisation, my boss is on her 3rd week off sick with work related stress and I am being ignored by most of the more senior people on the team, except when they try to be helpful and end up altering my well-defined process. I have ADHD and only cope by being very very process focused, even though I find it difficult to establish, once established I get massively panicky if things get changed.

I am leaving this role within the next month so there is literally no point trying to change any of the above. I have also lost all motivation beyond what pride and work ethic dictates. There is no point trying to excel right now.

I can feel my heart racing. Every little thing makes me dissolve into tears. I am going from unable to eat to binge eating junk. Exercise is a coping strategy for me but I am so very very tired.

I just want to lay my head down on the desk and either weep or sleep.

My head is spinning. I'm very tired of being me right now. I just want to sleep and sleep and sleep.

You should 100% take the day off sick today, and probably tomorrow. You sound very stressed and burned out and your body is crying out for sleep. Work can wait.

I've only just got back from being off sick with an actual virus (spots in my throat kind of thing). I even took an extra day to try and protect myself, but I'm currently the only person on my team and I just feel like I can't bugger off again. I'm going to have to, though, if this keeps up.

I just want the solicitor to call and say everything is sorted. It would be such a weight off (which I just type out as 'wait'- Freudian, huh?)

Can you and your partner take a day off and have some organised fun? We do that when things get a bit much. Do something to take your mind off things. Spa day, matinee, food market, escape room!

Still nothing on the exchange and the solicitors is closed for the day now

Well it can't be forced. What is the hold up? Is there a chance the sellers are delaying for some reason. "if its for you it won't go by you". If the house is meant to be it will happen on its own time and getting stressed won't change anything. Have you asked the estate agent what the hold up is? What was the exchange and completion date and has it passed?

Also why do you need to argue with the council about a school place? That doesn't sound good?

Take some deep breaths and surrender to the uncertainty. Nothing can be changed right now, so do what you can and then let the rest go.

I am in the same boat as you. We are waiting on exchange any day now. Our buyer has gone from pushing to move to now wanting to wait so I can see them pulling out .

I have also been in tears and stressed out it seems like for the last few months since we started the process. I have honestly never felt this stressed out and anxious in my life.

I hope you get good news soon.

Thank you. You too.

My DSis is also selling/buying. Started after me, already completed. Visiting her new house this weekend to measure up. I'm thrilled for her but it's really highlighting how long my process has taken and I'm so fed up

Still haven't exchanged. Boss still isn't back. Losing my everloving mind now.

I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through, as mentioned above, you need some rest and to take care of yourself. I am in a very similar boat, but I'd say potentially in a sinking boat at this stage. We're FTB and the vendor is dragging her feet since April, we are nowhere near to the exchange date and it's looking like it's all going to fall through. A great house, great location etc. I am coming into terms that we will need to start the whole process again and it's just so draining. I feel like an emotional wreck. Also crying and eating junk or not eating at all. This house buying thing freaking SUCKS!!!!! Good luck with your purchase and I really hope it all falls into place for you! Take care of yourself, noone else will!! x

Still haven't exchanged.

We're supposed to complete in 11 days. Not sure what to do