Whose fault is this disaster?

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Precious mug left dirty next to the sink to be washed as if by magic later.

Mug put into the dishwasher with all the other pots after dinner.

Mug is clearly not dishwasher proof.

So the fault of the person who left it or the person who put the "obviously" not DW proof much in the machine or the person who thought a non DW proof mug made a cute present ?

Mug was given to teen DS by his girlfriend, hence the magnitude and huge emotional fallout of the disaster

In our house dishes go straight into the dishwasher except things which need to be hand-washed (anything with gilding on or souvenir mugs which fade over time) which are left by/in the sink so it would definitely be the fault of the person who put it into the dishwasher.

TBH I think it depends.

If it was clear to everyone that the mug couldn’t go in the dishwasher, then I’d say it’s the responsibility of whoever put it in there.

if ds hadn’t really said anything, then it’s his fault.

@Comefromaway yep, same in our house too.

It is/was a very ordinary looking mug but rather than being painted like a normal mug, it seems to be covered in some sort of shrink wrap with the design on it.

It doesn't specifically say DW proof on it like I guess they do if they are, but neither does it say not DW proof and DS hadn't mentioned it.

Well that's just asking for trouble. How could anyone possibly have known?

This.

The person using it should take care to keep it out of harms way.

If ds hadn’t mention it and perhaps didn’t even know about it, then no one is responsible.
it’s an accident, an unfortunate one but a simple accident.

So, did the shrink wrap shrivel up or just slide off? I would love a pic for educational purposes 😬

Mug owner should have washed and dried it themselves. 😂

Shouldn't have left the dirty mug next to the sink.

Referring to it as a disaster is a bit strong. It's just a minor fuck up at best. Can't the girlfriend buy him another more robust mug?

My DD has a ‘precious’ Harry Styles mug she got of Etsy ( she’s his number one fan ). One of those ones where the image is printed on by someone who crafts and would fade in the dishwasher. She hand washes it every time she uses it because it’s special to her. I don’t buy anything that is not dishwasher safe and she knows that so this is her responsibility.

The real lesson is that this is in no way a disaster. Life happens.

Here it wouldn't be anyone's fault: it would be natural evolution at work.

If it doesn't survive the dishwasher then it doesn't belong here

DS should have mentioned it.

If he’s precious about the mug, he should of washed himself instead of leaving there for the washing up fairies to do!

OP clearly is aware it's not a disaster and explained why her son believes it to be as such. Lighten up.