Neighbour constantly shouts at her kids

[NoEffingWay]

From first thing til last thing at night I hear her shouting and the kids crying after they have been shouted at.

I can't have my windows open, and the noise comes through the walls so loudly it makes me and DS jump.

Three blissful years I have lived here and in 6 months there hasn't been a day without shouting and screaming.

The kids I have no issue with, they are sweet and play nicely in the garden, though with that constant piercing scream of excitement!

I want to say something, but don't want a dispute. It's making me anxious and i have had clients commenting on it during meetings (I WFH).

Any suggestions?

Why are you scared of her?

I would report this. I didn't think so at first, until you said that she is home educating. If she is constantly shouting, she can't possibly be teaching, and there will be no school involvement.

This. Sounds like those lids need a professional eye on them.

(And, if social services ask why she’s constantly yelling, that might quieten her far more effectively than a complaint from you.)

Why is everyone's 1st reaction to be call social services?! Many need to Google forced adoptions... Comments like this aren't always helpful!

Shouting at your own children doesn’t always mean it’s abuse

Of course not if it's now and again, when it may be warranted/necessary/understandable/excusable; but there's clearly something very wrong when it's constant, all day.

If it's bothering OP (presumably an adult) next door, those poor little kids must be terrified being bawled at constantly in their own home, with nowhere else they're able to go on their own.

I personally can't think of any scenario when it wouldn't constitute abuse when somebody is shouting all day at somebody - especially small children - unless they had a playroom five floors up from where the mum is or one of them was extremely hard of hearing.

Would any of the adults on here tolerate a manager at work - where you're getting paid - who constantly shouted at you from start to finish of the day? Assuming you wouldn't, why on earth should helpless young children have to live like that?

If she is constantly shouting, she can't possibly be teaching, and there will be no school involvement.

Yes, indeed. Lots of people register for home-schooling their kids - and many of them do a wonderful job; many do an adequate to good job; and many just do it to save them the bother of taking their kids to school and entirely neglect teaching them anything at all.

Why is everyone's 1st reaction to be call social services?!

Because it very much sounds like children are being abused and/or the mum needs help.

If you had a partner who never spoke to you but only ever shouted at you, all day long, would you happily stay with him/her?

Why do you care if she knows OP? Did you do anything @NoEffingWay

I have an awful neighbour (renting temporarily I hope) who has got worse and threatens to 'smack your ar*e) to her two children. It's all 'love you' and fake squeaky voice outside. I hope they school spot it, or are told something by the children, as both parents are mindless thugs and I'm not putting myself in the firing line.

Calling social services because of shouting seems dramatic to me. I’d go round or send a note.

Calling social services because of shouting seems dramatic to me. I’d go round or send a note.

Even constant shouting? Not just an occasional 'kids are testing my patience' or 'shouting up the stairs' episode, but dawn till dusk every day? Is that a way that you would want to grow up?

They do it in the army - to adults - deliberately to subjugate soldiers and keep them in line and fearful of authority; it's a well-established controlling tactic and, imho, abusive; although at least adults choose to join the army. As I said upthread, if you came on MN and said "My DH screams at me all day, every day", the LTBs would be falling like December snow in Norway.

I have the same thing with my neighbours. The wife can get quite hysterical and stamp her feet while screaming at the kids or husband. The husband yells at the kids like a sergeant-major. Even when they had just the first child we could hear them through the wall (of a solidly-built house) telling him how effing stupid he was. He was 2 years old at the time! It's most distressing to hear. We never used to hear the previous occupants. I think I'll phone the NSPCC to ask their advice. It's certainly blighting our home life as we feel as if we are living with them and it's very upsetting to hear children screamed at like that.

Report her, I had a mum like that and it's an awful way to be dragged up, poor kids.

This thread is from two years ago 🙄

She also has 2 kids and not just one.