Attached kids

[Sux2buthen]

I'm just sitting wondering and thought I'd ask here.
Today my young primary kids tried an activity club for the day, they've done a couple before and not liked any of them. I had hoped today they might but no, sadly not.
They only really like anything if I'm there it seems and I'm just wondering if it's a possible offshoot from being with me during covid times 🤔
I'm not that interesting, it can't be that 😂I'm a lone parent, my toddler is my shadow and my two older just aren't keen on much without me.
Anyone else found this?

I feel they are missing out that's all

If they start something with you there, do they get less clingy thoughout the session?

Do they do less stuctured things without you? Like if you were to take them somewhere like flip- out would you be able to sit at the side or would they be trying to get you to be on the trampoline with them?

If they leave you happily and without crying etc and just swan in, it means they have a good attachment to you as they know you’ll come back for them. Or that’s what I’ve been told and read a lot!

Clinginess/ambivalence to an activity or club is a different thing. My 4 yo is very like that, total homebody and I do think covid has something to do with it!

If we go somewhere like soft play or flip out they boomerang to me a lot. It's a shame there's all these nice things to do but they seem lacking in confidence rather than being actual home bodies. If I'd been there today even just watching they would have been fine.
Don't get me wrong, they've tried it, I wouldn't dream of forcing them in their holiday time to go back. We will do something fun together instead, it's just a long old holiday when they are velcroed to me. Bless em

I also do think covid might have caused them to be less sociable than might be usual, they were both in early stages of school/ nursery when lockdown started

Covid probably didn't help, if they got used to being with you all the time.
My son was a bit of limpit, for abkut a year but it got better and he is quite good at beimg independent now even if he does still check in with me a bit.
I never drew attention to it, but started doing activities that pulled him from me a bit while I was still there, like we went to a go ape and you have to do the ropes on your own so he couldn't stay that close. He loved it so we went another time but i stayed on the floor and he went up and he knew I was close but he still did the whole thing independently.
I got his dad to take him out more, and my younger brother (who my son thinks is the coolest) came out with us and my son wanted to be cool and do stuff with his uncle.

We took his friends and his cousins out with us to the woods and met them at parks and he stopped being so clingy as they were there and he got more confident at being able to do things on his own.
It took a long while but hes got much less anxious recently- even managed a cub camp