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A snoring one

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JasmineVioletRose · 02/08/2022 07:43

Ear plugs don't work
DH has been sleeping in another room for months
Doctor says to drink less & lose weight.
DH says he's going to do this.
He's not doing it.
Would noise cancelling headphones work maybe?
Am really fed up of this 😔

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IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 02/08/2022 07:47

I don't know, but I can't stand DH's snoring and havn't slept properly for weeks. We don't have a space room! He's not overweight, far from it, and he barely drinks, but his snoring is getting worse.,His dad uses a CPAP machine to stop the snoring. Clinical and not exactly cosy, but it works.

themepark · 02/08/2022 08:14

Another room?

Stupidbonfire · 02/08/2022 08:19

i am in a similar situation. DH takes some medication which he really needs. But the side effect of such deep sleep and snoring. He needs the sleep. He is so much better since taking the meds. But the snoring and mouth breathing is so loud. No spare room. I’m at my wits end!

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JasmineVioletRose · 02/08/2022 13:53

He's in another room. But I miss him. Just need the noise to stop 🙈

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CalistoNoSolo · 02/08/2022 14:01

My ex's snoring killed our relationship. It was the main reason - because he didn't give enough of a shit about me to even attempt to sort it out.

I feel for you OP, I stuck it out for way too long and ended up hating and deeply resenting my ex. You need to be really clear with your DH that your relationship is in jeopardy because of the snoring and that he needs to start sorting it now.

girlmom21 · 02/08/2022 14:02

I think you need to speak to him quite seriously about what his lack of action means for your relationship.

LubaLuca · 02/08/2022 14:07

How long ago did the doctor tell him to lose weight and stop drinking alcohol? Has he made any progress on these things?

Topgub · 02/08/2022 14:09

Maybe he's happy snoring away in the other room

I would be

🤷‍♀️

SteveHarringtonsChestHair · 02/08/2022 14:13

CalistoNoSolo · 02/08/2022 14:01

My ex's snoring killed our relationship. It was the main reason - because he didn't give enough of a shit about me to even attempt to sort it out.

I feel for you OP, I stuck it out for way too long and ended up hating and deeply resenting my ex. You need to be really clear with your DH that your relationship is in jeopardy because of the snoring and that he needs to start sorting it now.

My ex also never took any responsibility for it. I had to wear ear plugs and yet if ever I snored he tried to wake me as it disturbed him - but apparently he had weird shaped ears and couldn’t wear ear plugs Hmm.

One time I bought a selection of different things, nose strips, mouth guards, a spray etc and put them on the bed near his foot and he kicked them off and then accused me of throwing them at him!!

I ended up buying two separate beds as he was also a massively fidgety sleeper and he was mortally offended at this too, but at least I finally slept well when he stayed over.

It’s only since we split that I realise how massively selfish he was tbh. And the snoring was just one manifestation of it. It was his problem, not mine, but he put all the responsibility for solving it onto me. He only finally went to the GP about it when it started affecting his sleep as he was choking in his sleep, and then came back with an asthma inhaler and said he’d been diagnosed with mild asthma. I told him his gp was an idiot and it was clearly sleep apnea and then he said “oh yes, she did say it was that too”. But refused to use a CPAP as that was lame. Idiot.

One plus point of being single I now sleep like a baby every night!

FanSpamTastic · 02/08/2022 22:03

Bose sleep buds - cost about £200! Only way I could stay in the same house as dh - could even hear him from the spare room!

DianeITV · 02/08/2022 23:28

Apparently sleeping on your side helps reduce the sound of snoring xx

Saz12 · 02/08/2022 23:58

DH is also a snorer. He’s not overweight.

He also sleep talks and occasionally sleep walks when stressed.

Nothing works!

userxx · 03/08/2022 00:02

What about custom made ear plugs ? I've heard good things.

RainbowToes · 03/08/2022 00:05

I slept on the lounge floor for a while...now happily divorced and got my king-size bed back.
Bliss.

DrMadelineMaxwell · 03/08/2022 00:10

DH could snore sitting up, and however he slept didn't reduce the volume. He never sleeps on his front. I was absolutely ready to leave him at one point. I get that he was asleep while it was happening and he had no control over it but it was very stressful for me. No spare room (and he'd have been really upset if I'd slept in another room - although had it been an option I'd have considered it!) so I tried my best to get to sleep before he came to bed as my best chance to get a good night's sleep.

He lost a LOT of weight in the first lockdown after I told him strongly I thought he needed to see the doctor about his health - surprisingly he went (v medical help averse normally) and got a pre-t2 diabetes diagnosis. So for the first time ever he dieted and lost stones and stones. Which did have the result that his snoring and (worse) his apnoeia stopped. Thank God!

FreezyFreezy · 03/08/2022 00:11

Bluetooth sleeping mask with built in headphones. I play thunderstorms and rain.
They don't block the noise out but they give me something else to listen to.

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JasmineVioletRose · 05/08/2022 20:52

FreezyFreezy · 03/08/2022 00:11

Bluetooth sleeping mask with built in headphones. I play thunderstorms and rain.
They don't block the noise out but they give me something else to listen to.

Ooo thanks will try!

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JasmineVioletRose · 05/08/2022 20:53

DrMadelineMaxwell · 03/08/2022 00:10

DH could snore sitting up, and however he slept didn't reduce the volume. He never sleeps on his front. I was absolutely ready to leave him at one point. I get that he was asleep while it was happening and he had no control over it but it was very stressful for me. No spare room (and he'd have been really upset if I'd slept in another room - although had it been an option I'd have considered it!) so I tried my best to get to sleep before he came to bed as my best chance to get a good night's sleep.

He lost a LOT of weight in the first lockdown after I told him strongly I thought he needed to see the doctor about his health - surprisingly he went (v medical help averse normally) and got a pre-t2 diabetes diagnosis. So for the first time ever he dieted and lost stones and stones. Which did have the result that his snoring and (worse) his apnoeia stopped. Thank God!

Amazing. I think it's definitely the weight. But it's easy to say "loose weight" isn't it 🤷🏻‍♀️

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JasmineVioletRose · 05/08/2022 20:54

He's bought a mouth guard. Trying it out tonight. Will report back....

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MrsSkylerWhite · 05/08/2022 20:55

He needs a CPAP. Life changing, for him and for you.

Ilovechoc12 · 05/08/2022 20:58

It lasts years unfortunately- I NEED my sleep and no noise …. I’ve had my own room for 7 years plus even on holiday I wouldn’t share a room as I can’t sleep with the loud snoring ….. I’ve accepted it.

sad but true

FiveDollarMilkshake · 05/08/2022 21:05

CalistoNoSolo · 02/08/2022 14:01

My ex's snoring killed our relationship. It was the main reason - because he didn't give enough of a shit about me to even attempt to sort it out.

I feel for you OP, I stuck it out for way too long and ended up hating and deeply resenting my ex. You need to be really clear with your DH that your relationship is in jeopardy because of the snoring and that he needs to start sorting it now.

Agree with all of this. I think sometimes they don’t know (or care?) how much the snoring is affecting the relationship. Tell him in no uncertain terms.

My DH snores and is overweight & drinks too much, it’s been really difficult and I’ve moved to a different room

Longlostfamilial · 05/08/2022 21:06

Push him to get a sleep clinic referral. It took me literally years to get OH to go, and it was probably more our daughter that did, but he would fall asleep all the time as he was so tired. He now wears a CPap machine and it has changed both our lives. No more snoring, and I can sleep at last. He was stopping breathing about 30 times an hour. I however permanently wear an ear bud as it is so much of an ingrained habit from years ago. I listen to various things, white noise, radio etc.

ohblowmedown · 05/08/2022 21:06

I hear you. Mine also promises to lose weight (it's the only thing that has a effect on his snoring)

Even when he's in another room and I'm wearing silicon earplugs I can hear him. It's ruining our marriage because I just always feel like punching his big snory face in.

I'm thinking of getting some noise cancelling headphones to put on top of my earplugs. Failing that I'm moving out.

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