Babies in your late 30s.

[Dippydonky]

Hi everyone,

For anyone who chose to have/not to have a child in your late 30s, what helped you decide?

I’m trying very hard to not just succumb to hormones and age related panic for a life changing decision!

I had DD when I was 36. She's 3.5 now. I think I'd have had more energy if I'd had her in my 20's but we're more financially stable now than we were then so swings and roundabouts.

In the end it was actually DH who pushed us to have a baby. I'd always said I wanted kids but we delayed for various reasons (jobs, finances etc) and it was getting to the "now or never" stage. He said he thought I'd regret it if we didn't and he's right. She's the hardest thing we've ever done but also the most rewarding.

I had mine at 42. I did have a dreadful pregnancy but that wasn’t age related but I didn’t then find it tiring looking after a tiny baby. I’ve been exhausted my whole life then suddenly having this child energised me! And it still does a decade in!!

I had my first at 18 (surprise 👀) and second age 31.

I love being a mum in my 30s, i didn't really appreciate it when I was younger, just found it tricky trying to navigate work etc.

Hoping for another before I'm 35.

Go for it OP, I always think you regret things you haven't done a lot more than what you have.

Menopause and puberty in one house...

that could happen regardless. Mil had her first dd at 23 but went through menopause in her 30’s. I’m 50 but no sign as yet and my kids are both coming out the other side.

Actually in one flat, in lockdown, with kid self isolating for several 14 day periods....

having kids in my 30’s meant I was financially stable and had significantly upgraded from the small flat I had in my 20’s to a decent size house.

you can’t let hypotheticals stop you doing anything.