please no re posts anywhere, had a few things posted by newspapers and I am sick of having to change my UN constantly recently.
Hi all, basically Dp has recently been for a health check. He is 44. He is very slim (11 stone) doesn't drink or smoke at all but his diet isn't great. He's weakness is pastries, cakes, thick slices of cheese, thick spreads of butter on bread, lots of Mayo with chips and adding salt to stuff!! He likes fizzy drinks too. None of this stuff is what I regularly eat, my weakness is more chocolate and portion sizes!
His BP is a bit high, as is his cholesterol - nothing too high but needs to be monitored and reduced obviously. He doesn't need to lose weight obviously. He eats at night just before bed too which I don't as would be sick in the night if I did the same. I don't eat late.
I am certainly bigger than him. I've never been naturally skinny and was up and down for a while after having our two kids. I have now reached a comfortable weight, I've stayed at the same weight for a couple years, my diet isn't the best, but not the worst either. I had some blood tests back along and mine were pretty good. I admit it would still be good for me to eat healthier, maybe lose a stone but I'm at a point my weight has stabilised without too much effort and I'm happy and comfortable.
Dp has gone from one extreme to another. He's literally cut out everything, I feel that he could still become healthier without starving himself of everything, as above he doesn't need to lose any weight, his bmi is very good.
he wants me to do the same. I admit that I could be healthier and lose another stone or so but as above I'm not putting much effort in to maintain my weight at the minute. I used to binge eat but I do not anymore. I am happy.
Dp isn't fussed on my weight and never has been big or small but wants me to be fully supportive eating all this super healthy food, with no treats. I'm up for healthier meals for sure, but cutting out snacking will be a challenge for me.
the irony is all those times I was trying to lose weight (the key for me was to stop the binge eating) he still ate everything as normal as he was skinny and didn't need to. But now I'm expected to?
dp really isn't pressurising in general and I think this has come from shock and he honestly thought his meant weight he was really healthy but it's not always the case.
I don't feel he should be starving himself of everything. He just needs to cut down and eat everything in moderation rather than eating a whole 4 pack of doughnuts. He tends to eat small meals, lots of snacks whereas I prefer bigger meals, I still snack but a smaller quantity and not so much cake or pastries.
we both need to make improvements but my MH is at an all time low at the minute. Being strict with myself (I've been too strict with food in the past) will not help things at all. I don't want to be giving too much thought to what I'm eating!
he's driving me mad. Yesterday he had one slice of toast all day until tea time!! This is not healthy for him as he gets up early and needs energy. He's gone from one extreme to another.