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Do you believe that butterflies can be a message sent from above?

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Sugarsugarhoney · 30/07/2022 14:00

I’m still very upset about the loss of my beautiful cat who tragically died two weeks ago, and maybe I’m ‘looking’ for signs that she’s ok, if there is hopefully somewhere everyone including our pets go to after leaving this World.

We bought dcats ashes home the other day, and I hung a beautiful sun catcher up (with my pets name and a rainbow bridge on it that I’d ordered) just over our patio doors where she used to go in and out of. The very next day a beautiful large red admiral butterfly landed right near to the sun catcher, and stayed there for a couple of minutes, gently flapping it’s wings before leaving, and now I honestly wonder if it was indeed a sign from someone to say my cats alright where she is.

I know many might not believe in ‘messages’ and I admit I’ve always been sceptical. However, I’ve never seen a butterfly land where it did before (or stay for the length of time that it did), and so although it could possibly be a coincidence, when I told my friend she insisted it was a sign. Has anyone else had the same kind of ‘visit’ from beautiful butterflies?

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IncompleteSenten · 30/07/2022 14:03

I think when you are looking for signs you will find them.

It doesn't really matter if it was a sign or just a butterfly. If you felt comforted by it, that's what matters.

Sorry about your cat. 💐

Cornettoninja · 30/07/2022 14:04

I‘m sorry to hear about your cat, they really leave a huge hole don’t they Flowers

I can’t say I believe in messages or visits but then I also believe that people sense what they sense. If that’s what you’ve experienced don’t let anyone sway you to doubt it if it’s given you comfort.

the attached speech always gives me a lot of comfort.

Do you believe that butterflies can be a message sent from above?
bloodywhitecat · 30/07/2022 14:05

Not butterflies but I do have a very persistent robin in the garden since DH died in February, also the plum tree at the bottom of the garden that never fruited while he was alive is laden down with fruit. He always said he'd get it to fruit if it was the last thing he did! I guess there is always a logical explanation for these things but I find comfort in them and it sounds like you do too and there is nothing wrong with that.

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PrunedLeaf · 30/07/2022 14:06

I don't think it's important what other people think, what matters is the comfort that it offers you when you see a sign

MsInsomniac · 30/07/2022 14:08

Yes. When my dad passed I drove home from the hospital back to mums with mum. She has a large porch which has no windows, when we opened it a butterfly was inside. It flew around mum and landed right on my chest where it stayed for several seconds just beating it’s wings then it few round us both again before going straight out of the door. They’ve had that house since 1970, never before or since has a butterfly been in there, there is no way to get in except in the short time the front door is open to exit or enter. Weirdly my dcs were hundreds of miles away with their dad at the same time and my youngest who was only 4 at the time told me a butterfly landed on him the same day.

mistermagpie · 30/07/2022 14:11

bloodywhitecat · 30/07/2022 14:05

Not butterflies but I do have a very persistent robin in the garden since DH died in February, also the plum tree at the bottom of the garden that never fruited while he was alive is laden down with fruit. He always said he'd get it to fruit if it was the last thing he did! I guess there is always a logical explanation for these things but I find comfort in them and it sounds like you do too and there is nothing wrong with that.

This is lovely.

My nana died recently and I couldn't attend her funeral (lots of reasons, but I loved her very much) so on the day I went to a church where I was and life a candle. I felt... nothing. I think I had hoped for a sign or something. Then later I went into a shop to buy a drink, it was very much not a Christmas ornament shop but was selling loads of Christmas ornaments, in July. I glanced and there was a little wooden fairy which just leapt out at me. My nana loved Christmas and had a saying about fairies which we used to joke about. It probably wasn't anything but felt like a little wink from her to me so I bought it.

These things are maybe signs and maybe not, but they are comforting and about finding beauty in the 'after' and so I don't thing I really matters.

ParvuliThankYouDebbie · 30/07/2022 14:12

My MIL does. She always finds them comforting and feels they are a sign that her little boy, who died when he was two, is visiting her. She’s 95, and he would have been 64 now so she’s been taking comfort in their visits for a long time now, and how it makes her feel is all that counts really. ♥️ 🦋

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Sugarsugarhoney · 30/07/2022 14:14

IncompleteSenten · 30/07/2022 14:03

I think when you are looking for signs you will find them.

It doesn't really matter if it was a sign or just a butterfly. If you felt comforted by it, that's what matters.

Sorry about your cat. 💐

Thank you, I did feel very comforted by it.

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Sugarsugarhoney · 30/07/2022 14:18

Cornettoninja · 30/07/2022 14:04

I‘m sorry to hear about your cat, they really leave a huge hole don’t they Flowers

I can’t say I believe in messages or visits but then I also believe that people sense what they sense. If that’s what you’ve experienced don’t let anyone sway you to doubt it if it’s given you comfort.

the attached speech always gives me a lot of comfort.

They sure do leave a huge hole, I’m just grateful that we have her we us.

I love those words, very comforting.

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TheVanguardSix · 30/07/2022 14:19

I see butterflies all the time lately. And a small part of me is like, “Oh some neighbourhood child’s caterpillar kit’s worked out well!” But a much larger part of me knows it’s a message of hope from my beloved, departed brother. I’m a big believer in signs and wonders, OP.

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Sugarsugarhoney · 30/07/2022 14:20

bloodywhitecat · 30/07/2022 14:05

Not butterflies but I do have a very persistent robin in the garden since DH died in February, also the plum tree at the bottom of the garden that never fruited while he was alive is laden down with fruit. He always said he'd get it to fruit if it was the last thing he did! I guess there is always a logical explanation for these things but I find comfort in them and it sounds like you do too and there is nothing wrong with that.

I agree with pp that yours is a lovely story! and if we find comfort, then who knows, maybe they are messages!

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Evenstar · 30/07/2022 14:25

I have had two occasions when I believe a butterfly/butterflies were a sign. The first after my first DH died and we went to lay flowers on his birthday just a few weeks after he died. His mother and our children were with me and I had chosen a bouquet with a butterfly in it, as I put it in the vase a beautiful butterfly landed on it and it stayed there for several minutes until we decided to leave and it flew ahead of us down the path.

The second time was after I had lost my DDog and we went to lay his ashes with our 2 DCats in the woods at the pet crematorium, as we stepped through the gate into the woods 2 butterflies appeared and went ahead of us to where we going. They carried on hovering whilst we put his ashes into the ground and then another joined them and they all flew into a beam of sunlight and left us. It was such a comfort DDog was only 2 and had been very poorly. I like to think that it meant they were all together.

I also experienced a robin sitting right on my mother’s grave the morning after her funeral, and there were many appearances of robins in the months that followed, and a magnolia I planted in her memory had one beautiful flower for Mothering Sunday the following year.

I believe in signs and the most important thing is that they give you comfort even if others don’t 💐

Purpleavocado · 30/07/2022 14:26

When my Mum passed in 2020, a few days later me and my dh saw two butterflies fluttering around together, and we both felt like it was a sign from my parents. I still smile when butterflies fly past me now.

Luredbyapomegranate · 30/07/2022 14:26

No. It’s just that you are looking for signs.

I am glad you found some comfort, and hope when the grief passes you will have lots of happy memories.

BerylBird · 30/07/2022 14:27

My neighbour told me that she believes white feathers are a sign from her dead mother. Now every time I find a white feather, I throw it over the fence into her garden.

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Sugarsugarhoney · 30/07/2022 14:27

MsInsomniac · 30/07/2022 14:08

Yes. When my dad passed I drove home from the hospital back to mums with mum. She has a large porch which has no windows, when we opened it a butterfly was inside. It flew around mum and landed right on my chest where it stayed for several seconds just beating it’s wings then it few round us both again before going straight out of the door. They’ve had that house since 1970, never before or since has a butterfly been in there, there is no way to get in except in the short time the front door is open to exit or enter. Weirdly my dcs were hundreds of miles away with their dad at the same time and my youngest who was only 4 at the time told me a butterfly landed on him the same day.

Ah you must’ve felt very comforted by your experience too, it’s a very strange coincidence that your son had the same thing happen to him on the same day 💕

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Sugarsugarhoney · 30/07/2022 14:31

mistermagpie · 30/07/2022 14:11

This is lovely.

My nana died recently and I couldn't attend her funeral (lots of reasons, but I loved her very much) so on the day I went to a church where I was and life a candle. I felt... nothing. I think I had hoped for a sign or something. Then later I went into a shop to buy a drink, it was very much not a Christmas ornament shop but was selling loads of Christmas ornaments, in July. I glanced and there was a little wooden fairy which just leapt out at me. My nana loved Christmas and had a saying about fairies which we used to joke about. It probably wasn't anything but felt like a little wink from her to me so I bought it.

These things are maybe signs and maybe not, but they are comforting and about finding beauty in the 'after' and so I don't thing I really matters.

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Exactly, nothing matters as long as people find things comforting, and I guess none of us know if we really do get signs, but just as equally none of us know that we don’t.

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Sugarsugarhoney · 30/07/2022 14:33

ParvuliThankYouDebbie · 30/07/2022 14:12

My MIL does. She always finds them comforting and feels they are a sign that her little boy, who died when he was two, is visiting her. She’s 95, and he would have been 64 now so she’s been taking comfort in their visits for a long time now, and how it makes her feel is all that counts really. ♥️ 🦋

Bless her, that’s a very sad story, but I’m glad that she finds comfort 💐

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Sugarsugarhoney · 30/07/2022 14:37

TheVanguardSix · 30/07/2022 14:19

I see butterflies all the time lately. And a small part of me is like, “Oh some neighbourhood child’s caterpillar kit’s worked out well!” But a much larger part of me knows it’s a message of hope from my beloved, departed brother. I’m a big believer in signs and wonders, OP.

My friend is a very big believer too, hence her insistence that my butterfly visit was a message, as others have said, the important thing is the comfort we get from signs.
I’m sorry you lost your Brother 💐

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Sugarsugarhoney · 30/07/2022 14:44

Evenstar · 30/07/2022 14:25

I have had two occasions when I believe a butterfly/butterflies were a sign. The first after my first DH died and we went to lay flowers on his birthday just a few weeks after he died. His mother and our children were with me and I had chosen a bouquet with a butterfly in it, as I put it in the vase a beautiful butterfly landed on it and it stayed there for several minutes until we decided to leave and it flew ahead of us down the path.

The second time was after I had lost my DDog and we went to lay his ashes with our 2 DCats in the woods at the pet crematorium, as we stepped through the gate into the woods 2 butterflies appeared and went ahead of us to where we going. They carried on hovering whilst we put his ashes into the ground and then another joined them and they all flew into a beam of sunlight and left us. It was such a comfort DDog was only 2 and had been very poorly. I like to think that it meant they were all together.

I also experienced a robin sitting right on my mother’s grave the morning after her funeral, and there were many appearances of robins in the months that followed, and a magnolia I planted in her memory had one beautiful flower for Mothering Sunday the following year.

I believe in signs and the most important thing is that they give you comfort even if others don’t 💐

Yours is also such a beautiful story about your loved ones 💕
the way in which the butterflies ‘led the way’ and stayed around you does seem as if there has to be something there, and I’m glad you found some comfort in their presence.
I’ve heard that robins can be a sign letting us know our loved ones are ok too. I’m sorry for your losses 💐

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Smallorangecat · 30/07/2022 15:29

I don’t believe they are and I don’t believe robins are either. I wish I did though because I would like the comfort of knowing DH was around watching over us. (I don’t believe he is, I believe very literally that he died and his energy is around us as in that Why You Want A Physicist to Speak At Your Funeral which I think is a brilliant piece of writing and wish I had had it at his funeral, but it doesn’t send signs or anything). My in-laws strongly believe in robins and butterflies and that things are a sign from him, and I am kind of jealous of the comfort they get from that.
I am sorry for the loss of your lovely cat.

vjg13 · 30/07/2022 16:00

I do believe in "signs" of all sorts. My Dad died unexpectedly many years ago and at his funeral one of the undertakers called me a particular pet name (which my Dad used) when he opened the car door for me which absolutely took my breath away.

DonateBloodNCheckSmokeAlarms · 30/07/2022 17:22

If you are of a Christian persuasion, I always recommend the book "Cold Noses at the Pearly Gates". Much less cheesy than it sounds!

Perfectlystill · 30/07/2022 17:23

No

Communionmom · 30/07/2022 17:27

I’ve posted this before but I had 2 miscarriages between DD1 & DD2. One was on DD1s second birthday. Summer 2? years ago there were always 2 butterflies in our garden and I loved seeing them. Then one landed on DD and I’m not woo but it felt special.

Do you believe that butterflies can be a message sent from above?