Being upset about a miscarriage 3 months later

[Toffeepancakes]

Name changed incase I’m recognised.

I suffered had a miscarriage at 6 weeks whilst on holiday in May. I have really privately struggled with it. At the time I spoke with both my DP (who was also very upset) and my family.
From the outside it would look as if I’m absolutely fine, I am back at work (two weeks after it happened) and socialising as I normally would.
However whenever I think about it or have a reminder, I just want to burst into tears or feel overwhelmingly sad. This happens daily. I don’t think anyone I know wants to talk about it anymore and I feel like they expect me to be fine about it now. My DP is great and would sit and chat with me but I don’t want to bring it up constantly.

I’m just not sure if it’s normal nearly three months after it happened to feel this way or if I should push myself to get over what happened. We have just started TTC again and I’m petrified about it happening again.

I’m not really sure what I want from this post but maybe just to see if other people feel the same or if I really do need to force myself to stop feeling emotional.

@Toffeepancakes I'm so sorry you've been through this. Please don't feel you should "get over it" within a certain time scale. There's no time limit on grief and recovery 💐

I am very sorry to hear about your miscarriage.
if I really do need to force myself to stop feeling emotional This never, ever ends well - how would you do this anyway? What I would always do when upset is to try to accept how I feel and try to understand/express my feelings fully.

I would speak to someone qualified, and if money did not allow that I would do as much journalling or drawing or talking to e.g. Samaritans to try to get my feelings fully out in the expectation that they will subside once truly understood and heard.

A totally totally normal reaction - as is any reaction after a miscarriage. Maybe a bit of counselling would help.

I felt the same after having a miscarriage. I think it’s a very normal reaction and over time the sadness went away.