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Frequency · 29/07/2022 17:31

I don't know her well. I'm fairly certain she drinks but not sure if she would sit in the house/garden and have a drink or if she only drinks in pubs etc. She has dozens of flowers already.

Ordinarily someone close to her would have bought the gift on behalf of my children but they have (very) recently passed away so I'm not sure I want to do the generic wine/chocolate/bath set or if I should attempt something a bit more personal/special while having no clue what she actually likes.

Any ideas?

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TheLadyofShalott1 · 29/07/2022 17:59

I am putting together a small wicker basket with eco shredded paper in it, and adding things like a small candle in a glass holder, relaxing pillow spray, a luxury handcream, a well known brand of herbal teabags, I haven't finished yet, but hopefully something like that would have at least a few things in it that the lady would appreciate.

My other thoughts for my basket are maybe a small luxury box of chocolates, a miniture wine or prosecco, luxury lip balm - things really that most of us would get in a supermarket shop, but a bit more luxurious, the sort of things we wouldn't normally spend on ourselves, so a bit of a pamper or treat.

I think that the good thing about this is that you can make it as large or small as you like to suit your budget. Then you could always add something like a small ornament, maybe of the breed of dog she has - if she has a dog. I hope that I have helped give you some ideas anyway.

I have just had another idea for the receptacle. How about an unusual and artistic tote bag, where you actually individually wrap up the same sort of "treat" presents as before, and give her a little card accompanying it, saying it is a lucky dip for her to use over a few days - rather than opening them all at once.

My one other thought is, would it be suitable for you to give her an IOU in a little card, for an Afternoon Tea for you and her at a special place near you both, with you just asking her for a convenient date. If you don't think that you know each other well enough, and you do know that she has other company that she would like to spend time with - an adult child, or her mother etc then you could just get her a voucher for two from there, and put it in a nice card - but only if you know she has someone else that she would like to take.

I hope someone comes up with a good idea for you soon @Frequency .I think it is lovely of you to do this for her 💐🍫

TheSpottedZebra · 29/07/2022 18:17

But if you literally know nothing about her, your only options are surely generic gift, or random thing of your choosing. Or try to find out more about her, I guess.

Ukelady · 29/07/2022 18:58

Plant, notebook, nice soap/handwash.

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ReluctantCourier · 29/07/2022 19:05

Dyson hairdryer, presuming she has hair

Frequency · 29/07/2022 19:05

I like the wicker basket idea. Thank you.

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carefullycourageous · 29/07/2022 19:06

I always go for a hamper approach because a) hopefully they like some of it and b) giving consumable items is better for the environment than yet more tat. I'd get a nice jar of jam/chutney, some biscuits, a cake etc. from my local farm shop.

ohblowmedown · 29/07/2022 20:05

I'm just intrigued who the random woman is who you hardly know but want to buy a nice gift for!

SnailTrailtoFreedom · 29/07/2022 20:09

Ordinarily someone close to her would have bought the gift on behalf of my children
This is a bit weird, a gift on behalf of your children but you don't really know her. Do your children know her at all! Can you ask what they want to give her?

Frequency · 29/07/2022 20:16

My youngest does know her but she would only really see her on social occassions/family gatherings/famil holidays. I asked my youngest and she shrugged and said, "IDK, dad always bought it, I just wrote the card."

I did asked if she read books on holiday and DD thinks so but cannot remember the author/book title or even if it was a book or a magazine.

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cherrypiepie · 29/07/2022 20:54

How old and what's the budget?

ReluctantCourier · 29/07/2022 21:23

Is it your ex mil

CherrySocks · 29/07/2022 21:55

Nice set of speciality teas ?
A scarf ?
A jigsaw puzzle ?
Framed photo of your children if appropriate ?
Pretty tin of interesting biscuits ?

Frequency · 30/07/2022 10:59

A framed photo of the kids and their dad would be lovely but I think it's too soon. I have decided to go with generic chocolate/wine this time as after thinking about it she's not going to be having a great birthday this year regardless. IDK If she even wants it acknowledging so I've settled on quite plain cards that could also be a "thank you for everything you've done for us the last few days etc" card and a bottle of wine she can take on her holiday if she doesn't drink at home but have saved the thread for xmas/next bday. I really like the photo and wicker basket idea and the teas and hamper.

It's my ex-SIL.

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ReluctantCourier · 30/07/2022 12:17

I’m sure anything will show her you’re thinking of her and she’s got family around which is probably what she needs right now, it’s kind of you to think of this OP

Thelnebriati · 30/07/2022 12:26

If she's a gardener instead of using a hamper, use a gardening trug.

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