Hi all - looking for advice.
My best friend and SIL are both currently pregnant and have several other children. I’ve very recently lost a long wished for baby in awful circumstances (ectopic/hospital etc etc) and have no living children.
I really want to be a good friend but equally am finding the whole thing so difficult :( I always ask after their children/how they are doing with pregnancy but feel I just can’t look at scan photos/hear about how awful pregnancy/running round after a toddler is (totally valid by the way! Just hard to hear when It’s all I wish for right now). I am also terrified of how I’ll react when their babies arrive and I have to visit (one due very soon).
How do people navigate this? What boundaries do people put in place? How do you get through baby snuggles with someone else’s babies? Trying to balance being a good friend and not have an emotional breakdown at every turn but it’s so tough!
thanks all!