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Early help support

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purpleme12 · 29/07/2022 00:52

Has anyone ever had help from 'early help' before?
I mean to help with their child's behaviour.
Like a family support worker or something?
Not really sure what help they can give or how much

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ReginaFilanji · 29/07/2022 00:58

Yes we have. DS has SEN. We have two other DDs, one with challenging behaviour but no additional needs. DS behaviour can be very challenging and just before lockdown we were really struggling. The whole house was miserable if I'm honest.

We had a FSW allocated to us and she was bloody lovely. Really approachable and understanding/none judgemental.

We did a course, 123 magic it was called. It was beneficial.

We still have bad days don't get me wrong they're less frequent.

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purpleme12 · 29/07/2022 08:24

Ok that sounds positive.
I don't know whether to accept the help or not.
I'm worried

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Legoisaws8om · 29/07/2022 08:26

It's completely voluntary so you can withdraw from early help at any time. Why not take the help and see how you get on? Who has suggested it? What is the concerns about behaviour?

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purpleme12 · 29/07/2022 08:38

Legoisaws8om · 29/07/2022 08:26

It's completely voluntary so you can withdraw from early help at any time. Why not take the help and see how you get on? Who has suggested it? What is the concerns about behaviour?

The neighbour has been harassing us for a year. Lots of different things. However then this behaviour started (which I actually did seek help with via school before next door started wanting to get involved) and it's feeding right into their hands.
She has outbursts (which they will of course claim are more often and worse than they are)
But they are using this to claim I abuse her.
I have been checked so many times as they call 999 and social services on us. Every time everyone's fine obviously and no concerns.
The police had to eventually tell them to stop at it was clear it was malicious after a few(they also had noise recording device put in so we've been recorded anyway via that)
But the reports to social services are still continuing cos they're easier for them to do.
They offered me it.
I don't know if anyone will be able to stop the outbursts (I stay calm through them and ride it out so it's not that that's the problem)
Mind she did say if I'm getting help from them they won't call with any more reports. Everyone's got to follow up reports as everyone's got to do their due diligence

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purpleme12 · 29/07/2022 08:39

Ps she has been referred for additional needs by school.I am unsure if it's this or not

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Jellycatspyjamas · 29/07/2022 08:43

They might be able to help you spot the signs of an outburst coming so you can head it off at the pass, so to speak. They might also be able to help your daughter understand why she’s getting to that point and offer other strategies eg to help her with regulation and teach you the same techniques. Often when you’re in it you can’t see things that someone with a fresh eye will. And you can withdraw at any time - it might keep the neighbour off your back but might also be actively helpful for you.

LIZS · 29/07/2022 08:46

Agree with @Jellycatspyjamas . You have had several threads concerned about her behaviour and the neighbour. Accepting the help would be a positive step for you and her and ease some of the pressure. Any help via school is likely to take a while to appear, so you could access this support in the meantime,

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purpleme12 · 29/07/2022 09:10

Ok I guess I'll accept it and see how it goes.
I feel quite nervous.
We spoke more this morning she was nice.
But I feel really threatened by the neighbour. They're actually spreading the allegation to other people.
I am really worried

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supadupapupascupa · 29/07/2022 09:25

Take the help! We have one. She does work with our child and then takes her out for a bit. She's got activities planned for her during the holidays and provides support to us too.

It goes on the record and helps with other things say if you want to apply for an ehcp or DLA. It's all evidence of the difficulties and trying to support your child.

Are they are like gold dust! We've been trying to get one for 5 years!!!!!

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purpleme12 · 29/07/2022 09:29

Ok thank you for the positive messages.
I really need them.
At this point I really wish 999 would come out because at least then they come out there and then and see the child is safe there and then.
I'm so worried about what the neighbour is actively spreading

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purpleme12 · 29/07/2022 13:52

She's already had the help organised by school.
CAMHS person did 3 sessions with her on controlling her emotions although I'm not sure it's really worked
But school are doing something else with her next term as well

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