Is it ok to ask for feedback after an interview?

[Armeins]

I gave up my job when I had my first child 5 years ago. I’ve started applying for jobs again and had an interview a few weeks ago. I didn’t hear anything until today when I got a short email saying that I had been unsuccessful, that there was another exceptional candidate and they were sorry that they couldn’t offer a position to me this time. I wasn’t surprised as it was the first interview I’ve had in so long and I knew when I didn’t hear straight away that it wasn’t good news. Do you think it’s ok to reply and ask if there is any specific feedback they could give me? Or would this be considered cheeky?

No- ask for feedback.

Of course its absolutely fine to ask for feedback

Ok thanks, I will do then. It would just be nice to know if I made any big mistakes.

I think it's completely fine ask. It shows me that the candidate took the interview seriously and they may have just missed out to a slightly more skilled person. Also you never know what turn of events you may face in that first choice could drop out for example and the role ends up being offered to you. I've done that before when first choice fell through.

You can ask but I wouldn't necessarily expect a truthful answer. Most employers are terrified of legal action, so you'll probably be told the other candidate had 'more experience' or recommended a course etc.

I interview a lot and hate when people ask for feedback. I do it and try to be constructive but it’s hard to say “well, someone else was better than you” in a way that not only protects confidentiality, but gives some value to the person asking.

If you have the money, I’d recommend spending a few hundred pounds on a really great local CV and interview coach. They’ll give you very blunt feedback, and put you through the wringer until you get it right.