Don’t trust contraception

[SnowyNoey]

Hi,

instead of searching the web for threads to read I’ve decided to join mumsnet and start one.

I’m currently on a pill called Lizinna which I’m not sure I’ve been getting on with and I’m not sure I understand .
prior to this I had the copper coil (it’s evil)
before that I tried desongestral or whatever it’s called Prostegen only pill. Didn’t work I bled all the time. Prior to that I had an abortion at 8 weeks (it was pretty traumatising I didn’t want to do it but I had to if I were to be able to care for my 2 children I had properly)
prior to that I had the mirena coil which was fab for a year until I started bleeding everyday forever. Prior to that I had my first abortion. Prior to that I used nothing for years. Before that I tried other various pills and also the implant.

so as you can imagine the two abortions were the worst possible decisions I’ve ever had to make, went against my moral but I had to make that decision. I don’t get on with contraception my body hates it. My boyfriend is clearly very fertile.
Im paranoid every month that I’m pregnant. I trust nothing and I’m beginning to feel so worn out and tired with feeling like this . The way the hormones affect my body and how scared I am! I’m at a loss I don’t know what to do anymore.

i just feel tired and sad.

Has anyone been in this position?

in also panicking as I did my first every tricycle , I started bleeding 7 days before I was due my 7 day break. I bleed for the full 14 days. I had sex a day before I was due to start my new pack. I’ve also been tracking on the flo app but it’s so out of sync with my cycle it says I was ovulating but I’m not sure if it’s taking into account my logged period/withdrawal bleed.

im so muddled. Help I need some reassurance or something!

thank you

Hello. Sympathies, contraception of any kind tends to take its toll on a woman's body.
Is your relationship stable and long term? If so, would your partner consider vasectomy?

It sounds like you need to use non-hormonal barrier methods such as condoms, a diaphragm, or the sponge.

Diaphragms, caps, and sponges are less common, but have a read and speak to a sexual health clinic.

After that the only options that I know of are the rhythm method (which I would not recommend) or sterilisation.

are you using condoms?

Thanks for the replies.

hes a long term partner, I have two children but they aren’t his and he has no children but I don’t think he would have vasectomy.

we have tried and tested lots of different condoms, I get really sore from all of them!

never really been educated on the female doms. So I will look into that.

I was talking to someone about having my tubes tires or womb out and was told I would just have to have HRT which isn’t a pleasant option either!

ive Been unable to get hold of a gp this week so il ask them to offer me ALL possible options. We don’t have a sexual health clinic here but I could go to the city to see if I can have help at the walk in centre.

You wouldn't get a hysterectomy for contraceptive purposes, it's hard enough to get one on the NHS after years of debilitating gynae issues! You wouldn't need HRT if you had your tubes tied, you only need that if you have your ovaries removed as part of a hysterectomy.

Just ask to be sterilized and if not, use two forms- a hormonal and a barrier. Or you could use NFP alongside barrier. I get you don't like them, but The other option is worse

NFP= know your cycle and when you are fertile (use an app to temperature chart and also look at CM). Don't do just this but also use condoms and still avoid intercourse during fertile period.

I don’t think he would have vasectomy.
Why wouldn't he?

Maybe he doesn't want to, which is a perfectly fine reason.

OP, I wouldn't see a GP in the first instance, I would go to the city and make an appointment at the sexual health clinic. GPs are great but they will have less experience with this than the staff at a clinic who advise on this day in day out.

Give female condoms a try if you want to, but fair warning they are more difficult to find, more expensive (and let's face it, not the best option environmentally either!), and if male condoms hurt you then you may experience the same issue with the female ones.

I think you'd be more likely to be a good candidate for the diaphragm or cap. These are not the same as female condoms!

Thank you so much for your replies, i agree that the GPs tend to give more textbook information rather then those who specialise on the topic. Il make the appointment and look into the diaphragm. I literally have very little knowledge on them so I’m intrigued to find out more!

im feeling a little lighter from my original post so I do appreciate it.