BIL and wife really being really selfish.

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My BIL and his wife both have Covid.
BIL had the worst of it last week and although he is still testing positive he feels ok and is back at work.
His wife came down with it yesterday, she is feeling rough (flu-like, high temp, shivers and aches) and has been in bed since yesterday.
Their washing machine has broken down and last week they arranged for a guy to come and repair it tomorrow.
I was FaceTiming them today and SIL said she couldn’t wait to get the machine fixed. I asked if the guy was happy to come into their home knowing she had Covid, in which she replied that she hasn’t told him, she’s desperate to get it fixed as the washing is piling high (it’s only the two of them at home, no kids). She said she will let him in but keep away from him.
I said that’s really selfish, that a broken washing machine wasn’t an emergency situation and the very least they could do was inform the guy and give him the option whether he wanted to enter their home or not.
SIL got very stroppy with me and said fixing the machine was more important (she has OCD) and she has no intention of letting the guy know and it will be fine as she will stay upstairs.
I know she has OCD and the washing piling up is giving her anxiety but this is still really selfish - isn’t it?

I should have said if he is willing to still come she should disinfect the area etc etc, it’s not fair to have him come knowing she has it.

Yabu, it's nothing to do with you. Most of the population has either got covid, has just had it or is just about to get it.
I would warn the washing machine repairer if I had covid but would not be policing other people's behaviour.

Yes, I think it's very selfish not to let him know before he comes in. At least he can take extra precaution if he decided to do the job.

Horrible sentiment

How is she going to let him into the house ?
Pay him ?
Explain what the issue is ? (this one possibly by text)

What are you talking about? The data doesn't come in for a couple of weeks but the last week that we have data for (2 weeks ago) it was 506 people that week. And no, they weren't all over 80. Those are the official stats from gov.uk.

I had COVID recently. My company policy is to self isolate for 5 days. I can't WFH and company doesn't pay sick pay. I can barely afford to not get paid so would rather not be put in a position where I'm potentially exposed to it again.

My youngest DD had it last week. 21 yo and fully vaccinated but she had to call 111 as she was having breathing difficulties. I don't think that's being over dramatic.

We have a cleaner come round once a week. Never mind COVID, I text her that morning if we’re unwell with anything so she can make the choice as to whether to come or not. Doesn’t matter whether it’s a cold, flu, D&V or Covid - she has the right to make that decision for herself.

What utter plonkers.

I got covid in February, I'm still not over it. I spent 8 weeks lying on a sofa or in bed and thought I was going to die. Over the next couple of months I gradually started to do more. I got pneumonia and broke ribs I coughed so much. People think I'm OK now but that is because I rest alot, if I do something like cook a meal or do some vacuuming I need to rest for an hour or two before I do anything else.

It is a real problem for us as I am DHs carer. Strangely as vulnerable as he is he didn't get it. If GS wasn't living with us I'm not sure how we'd have got through.

Use your eyes, this is in chat

For those saying that it’s no different from the flu. Have you actually ever had the proper flu? I have been unfortunate to have had it 3 times in my life. The last time it developed into pneumonia and has permanently damaged my lungs. I never, ever want to catch that virus again, it was awful.
I would never knowingly infect someone with the flu, Covid or any other virus which could potentially cause lasting health issues.
I truly believe Covid has shown just how bloody selfish so many people are.
It would take nothing for my BIL to contact the repair company, explain the situation and leave it to them to make the decision to still come or not.
Why is that such a problem for some on here? Are you that self centred and totally oblivious to the health struggles some of our community face on a daily basis?

Bloasomtoes obviously you are young or don’t have any elderly relatives. My parents are over 80. You talk about the over 80’s as though they are dispensable. So very ageist.

How is she going to let him in the property, show him where the machine is then let him out again without any contact?

I’m not young 😂 I’ll be 80 in eleven years and it won’t be tragic for anyone, including me, if I die then.

Blossomtoes I am genuinely sorry you feel that way.

Do you think the bill should be back at work? How many days should they isolate for?
I've been going out to work for the past two years and no one seemed to think any protection was needed. I don't think I would do what the woman in this scenario is doing but I also wouldn't stay inside for 14 days because that is not what we are asked to do now.

Don’t be sorry. I’m not. I know I’m not immortal.

Oh my goodness that is so sad. So sorry for your cousin and family. Just shows its not just the elderly or seriously ill that it can be life or death. OP your SIL is selfish. She needs to at least give the man the option, I'm sure he's well aware of the risks but would most likely want to be informed where there's a positive case.

It's a common attitude my daughter has covid her place of work (shop popular with elderly people in her area) have told her she can go into work 🙄 she can barely stand so they suggested she sit on a till she declined and I'm hoping they don't hold it against her

I'm similar age. There are different ways to die and I wouldn't choose covid. It was very painful, it was exhausting and it isn't nice to feel like you are suffocating. I don't want it again if I can avoid it. I'd have to be a masochist to choose death by covid.

I don’t understand the logic of your bil testing for work but yet he’s in work still testing positive.
What’s the difference op he’s gone to work testing positive in contact with multiple people she’s at home with the washing machine repair man . I understand your point but nobody is isolating.

gettingolderandgrumpy His works say that if he has gone past a certain amount of days, even though he’s testing positive he can come in and do admin, on his own in an office (he usually works with vulnerable people).
My main point was the fact SIL only came down with symptoms on Saturday, is feeling quite rough yet they don’t have the simple courtesy to tell the repair company so they and the repair man can make an informed choice if he wants to enter their property or not, that’s just common courtesy surely? Or has everyone now just become unbelievably selfish?
People are still isolating in certain places. I work with vulnerable people, I caught Covid for the first time a month ago. I wasn’t allowed into work but then again I felt like a bag of shite so I would not have wanted to.

so his work say even though he’s tested positive he can come in after so many days .some companies won’t let you back in till negative some say still work regardless and no isolating . As there are no rules anymore and who is right and wrong . Its 2 and half years on I can’t get upset about what’s right or wrong as imo stop testing .