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JadeFlower · 23/07/2022 20:27

I know a man through a sport we both do. Both middle aged and single.

I don't know him well but we mix a lot in the same circles.

He always seems pleased to see me and makes a point of chatting at events.

He contacted me to ask how I was when he heard I was ill

He sometimes messages random comments about sports teams we're both interested in.

However he's never "bitten" when I've put myself out there. Admittedly I've never been completely back and white about it, but:

After one event we'd both been at, everyone else was going off to do family things and I suggested a beer. No he's got work to do that afternoon.

I saw him this morning, chatted for quite a long time and we were both undecided about an event tomorrow. I've decided to go and offered him a lift (car sharing is common for these events). He's decided not to go, he's going to train on his own so he can do some work after.

I know he has taken on an extra project in addition to his day job because he's told me about it in quite a bit of detail.

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AverageJoan · 23/07/2022 20:34

On the face of it I'd say not interested but why not explicitly ask him out and see what he says? When I was getting to know my DP he was rubbish at picking up subtleties, sometimes you've just gotta spell it out if you want to get to know him better.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 23/07/2022 20:36

Not interested, knows you are interested, and politely sidestepping your invitations.

GoodVibesHere · 23/07/2022 20:38

Have you posted about him before? This sounds familiar. He is politely trying to avoid you I think.

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TheYearOfSmallThings · 23/07/2022 20:36

Not interested, knows you are interested, and politely sidestepping your invitations.

Yes, I think you're right, but then he gets in touch when he doesn't need to iyswim

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