Need to sort my eating issues once and for all

[Bettyboo8]

I've name changed for this.
I'm 5ft 1, I'm 10 and half stone.
I was 10st for years.
I weigh pretty much exactly the same as I did in March 2020 when we went into lockdown, this is despite my trying so many different diets. Low carb, keto, fast800, slimming world, etc etc.
I have so many rules around food such as no pasta or white bread as I'm meant to low carb due to pre diabetes but I will then go and have a big secret blowout/binge on sugary crap.

I just want to eat like a normal person and not have it take over my life, its all I think about. I feel like my life is on hold until I've lost a stone but a waste of my life.
My husband has got massively into the gym and protein shakes. He has incredible self control and now weighs less than me which is incredibly depressing and makes me even more obsessed.

I really need help.

The worst thing you can do is obsess about what you can't eat as it will tempt you even more. Focus on what you can eat and in my opinion everything is ok in moderation. I don't believe in diets though because they aren't sustainable. Try making small changes firstly like reduced fat cheese, lean meat and fry light. Just little things and if you feel like a sweet treat have a pink lady apple as they are quite sweet I find. All the little things add up.
Do you go for walks or exercise?

Be kind to yourself. You're unlikely to accomplish anything 'once and for all' because these things take time, consistency and remaking of habits.

This > "this is despite my trying so many different diets. Low carb, keto, fast800, slimming world, etc etc. I have so many rules around food such as no pasta or white bread" < is a recipe for disaster, and almost anyone would end up binging if they were putting that much pressure on themselves.

Of course it's easier said than done but trying to eat healthy, filling homecooked meals, and walking as much as possible, will be far more beneficial for your mood and your health than any of these extremes.

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Banning foods is really bad idea - as you can see! If you can find sugar free/low sugar alternatives that work most of the time and let yourself have the odd treat on top then that may work a lot better. I'm a total chocoholic but now I buy montezumas 100% black with mint or orange online, melt it and mix it up with sugar free muslei from lidl. Their 100% black peanut one I can eat on it's own. Sometimes I still end up eating 2 cadburys pots of joy in a sitting but I don't crave it so often this way.

I'm in the same boat OP. I turn 50 soon and I really struggle to lose weight now.

Also being short (I'm the same height) means that our daily calorie expenditure is so low that it's incredibly easy to at more calories than we need. For weight loss for me I can't eat more than 1,350 cals which is quite a low amount long term.

I tried Fast 800 which was great but put it all back on - and more - afterwards. I want slow, gradual and sustainable weight loss.

I do weights, yoga and walk the dog and my job is not sedentary.

Thank you. I do walk the dog and I go to the gym.

I think I am totally obsessed and it's not doing me any good at all. I've even had hypnosis for the binge eating and thats not worked.

I just think urgh fat belly and double chin and look at my irritating slim husband and how much weight he's lost and I feel like a total failure who's life is on hold until I lose weight. But it never stays off!

I have to say I agree that diets don't work. Yes you can lose the weight if you stick to one, but will it stay off? You may need to completely re-think your approach. What has worked for me is to accept the very simple fact that you won't lose weight until you are in calorie deficit. If the calories you are expending in energy are less than the calories you are taking in via food then you will lose weight.

So for me nothing is off limits - chocolate, chips, carbs, whatever. But I do limit them and try to fill up on fruit, veg etc. It's hard but I have had to change my entire approach to food and embrace more of a lifestyle change.

And exercise - walking and cycling are my saviours. I have the Strava app which tells me (once I input my vital statistics) that a mile of walking burns about 100 calories - so long as this is proper walking not just a gentle stroll.

And once you are post menopause it's a whole different ball game.

So it will get even harder after menopause? Argh!

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