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Please give me your stories from when...

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ml01omm · 19/07/2022 12:59

..you didn't get something you really really wanted at the time, but it ultimately worked out for the best in the end?

I've just lost out on a job that I really really wanted and knew I could do, but it went to my less experienced but more interview savvy colleague instead.

I could really do with some positive / happy endings to cheer my out of my funk.🙂

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KatherineJaneway · 19/07/2022 13:12

I was desperate to get a job at one point in my life and I had an interview with a company I knew were not that good as I had worked for a branch before. Luckily they messed me about and I took another job where I am really happy.

Startuplife · 19/07/2022 13:16

We really wanted to buy a new build house from a particular developer. There was a development coming up and so we made friends with the sales team and kept in touch to make sure we were first in line. When the plots were released, all of the ones we were interested in had been reserved by people who had been given an earlier appointment. We’d had a late one due to DP being at work.

I was absolutely gutted and may have cried. However, a few months later we ended up buying a much bigger house in the same area for £100k less than the new builds and I’m so so happy we did. It’s got way more potential, a garden 3 times the size and is just overall a much better house.

LadyCatStark · 19/07/2022 13:20

I did get my current job over more experienced colleagues and I hate it, so there’s always that 🙈.

nomoneytreehere · 19/07/2022 13:24

I didnt get a job i wanted once, they gave it to a man with more experience. I wrote a letter saying how disappointed i was and when another position opened about 6 months later they offered without reinterviewing. About 5 years later my boss told me they should have taken me first, firsttime round!

Rishiscreditcard · 19/07/2022 13:48

I didn't get a job I really wanted after getting down to the last two - they gave it to an older man and they obviously thought I might get pregnant as I was 30! They couldn't even think of any feedback to offer me and said it was 50/50! I was really disappointed. 6 months later I was made redundant from my job - it felt like more bad news. But luckily for me I received a good redundancy package - just enough to tide me over for a few months and help me start my own business! Thank God I never got that job or I'd still be stuck working for someone else. Nowadays I'm my own boss and I love it!

Good luck OP.

KStockHERO · 19/07/2022 13:54

I didn't get the competitive PhD funding that I applied for. It later became clear that the competition was rigged and I didn't stand a chance - there were two other candidates (for two positions) who were eschewing from the start.

I went on to get a much better PhD offer in the same department. More money. Supervised by a wonderful man. Working in a lovely research unit. Collaborating with some brilliant non-academic people. I was handed a job post-PhD which wouldn't have happened if I'd done the first PhD. That job was a stepping stone to a brilliant career.

The two candidates who got the PhDs instead of my first time around were Grade-A shambles - academically poor quality, lazy, not easy to work with. Served the panel right.

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ml01omm · 19/07/2022 19:14

nomoneytreehere · 19/07/2022 13:24

I didnt get a job i wanted once, they gave it to a man with more experience. I wrote a letter saying how disappointed i was and when another position opened about 6 months later they offered without reinterviewing. About 5 years later my boss told me they should have taken me first, firsttime round!

I'm torn between wanting this scenario - getting offered a new position and saying screw you and leaving

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ml01omm · 19/07/2022 19:15

LadyCatStark · 19/07/2022 13:20

I did get my current job over more experienced colleagues and I hate it, so there’s always that 🙈.

oh no! I don't wish my colleague who got it to hate it or any ill will, they applied same as me. The managers who made the decision on the other hand....

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Bluevelvetsofa · 19/07/2022 19:18

I tried really hard when interviewed for one job. Too hard probably and they didn’t appoint anyone. I ended up being offered a very similar job, much nearer home and stayed there a long time no had several promotions.

JLQ1020 · 19/07/2022 19:19

I didn't get a job that I really wanted and it was basically promised to me.
I was fuming but it worked out so well as I would have been out a fortune in travel, ended up getting a better job, then a promotion and then left the company just in time to avoid losing my job as they closed hundreds of stores across the country.
I'm in the best job now working with wonderful people. If I had that job I would have likely been miserable and wouldn't as a happy as I am no would I be on the salary I am which is much better than I could have earned in the other old company.

Chanel05 · 19/07/2022 19:22

A kind of what I didn't get... as an undergraduate student, aged 18, I loved going out with my friends and socialising but I was living on a university campus where this just didn't happen. I'd only just started the course but I found it so dull, even though I worked so hard to get on the unit. I decided to leave after a term.

9 months later, I enrolled at a different university and ended up meeting my husband. 13 years later, we've been married 4 years, have a dd and a ds on the way!

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