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Is a night nanny/day help worth it?

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Theopp · 17/07/2022 20:31

DP works away in the forces. I have the first two months alone. Will a night nanny help with a mix of help every 2 days for 5 hours?

I don’t know what to expect.

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Kite22 · 17/07/2022 23:15

I'm not entirely sure what you mean by this Will a night nanny help with a mix of help every 2 days for 5 hours? but having a solid block of sleep every now and then when you have a newborn, is a life changer.

If you don't have parents / in laws who are able to support you, and you can afford it, then I absolutely would encourage anyone to pay for someone to help occasionally.

When you are shattered / sleep deprived, everything seems impossible.
Of course, there is a slim possibility that you have a really really easy aby who sleeps lots from the beginning, but, lets be honest, most people don't.

Prettybubblesintheair · 17/07/2022 23:35

I think you’d be best spending the money on a cleaner and some sort of meal delivery service.

ladydoris · 17/07/2022 23:44

I would prioritize sleep over cleaning. Any day. Go for it OP.

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NuffSaidSam · 17/07/2022 23:55

I'd try and have a full night rather than 5 hours. I'm surprised you've found a night nanny willing to do a five hour shift tbh. But, yes, a solid block of sleep will help massively.

Veetavix · 18/07/2022 00:13

I got a postpartum doula who could do night nannying. Yes: it was worth it.

Wheretheskyisblue · 18/07/2022 05:46

Are you planning on breastfeeding? If so I can't see any point in a night nanny as you will need to wake up anyway.

Personally I would have found a break in the day most helpful. Maybe a few hours in the afternoon so you can nap or get out for a bit plus a cleaner.

Schooldil3ma · 18/07/2022 06:12

I would have killed for a night Nanny. I'd probably prefer 8 hours once a week (or however often you can afford) it'll keep your sanity knowing you're going to get a solid sleep in the next week.

toddlingthroughtoddlerhood · 18/07/2022 06:16

Yes if you can afford it it will only make things better!
post partum doula who did a few nights per week for me was an absolute game changer! I didn’t have family help and couldn’t have done it without her.

toddlingthroughtoddlerhood · 18/07/2022 06:19

Also to add I breastfed and Doula would bring baby in I would feed for 10 minutes or so and then she would take her back to settle/change etc meaning I would just turn over and go back to sleep!

Ilovechoc12 · 18/07/2022 06:35

If this is your first baby and you don’t need to work therefore you can crawl back into bed when the baby sleeps in the day I’d invest in a cleaner twice a week….. enjoy being with your baby. It’s the housework that drove me mad

Crackercheese · 18/07/2022 06:40

ladydoris · 17/07/2022 23:44

I would prioritize sleep over cleaning. Any day. Go for it OP.

Me too

addler · 18/07/2022 07:08

If you can afford it, absolutely.

Maternity nurses are trained in not only care for the newborn but care for the postpartum mother- being aware of mental and physical health issues that can arrive post partum and supporting you in your new role as a mother.

They should also be trained in feeding techniques, reflux etc

A good maternity nurse can be a total asset, especially if you're doing the first two months alone- it could be the difference between feeling completely alone and overwhelmed and having someone there to ease the load a little, who you can pass the baby to knowing they're in safe hands and go and sleep.

Paranoidandroidmarvin · 18/07/2022 07:25

Looking back now. I wanted someone to help me. Even after two weeks I couldn’t walk properly. Would have wanted someone to have done the dishwasher , made meals , cleaned the house , made bottles. So I could just sit and rest. Babies don’t do much for the first little while. But I needed the help.

also could have had done with someone who would have just sat and talked to me. Cannot tell u how lonely I felt during the first few months.

Squashpocket · 18/07/2022 07:48

Humans are not meant to do the post-part I'm period alone. There's something wrong with our society (misogyny, probably) that expects women to do all the day time care, all the night waking and all the housework/food preparation.

In the past I assume that other female members of the family would pick up the housework and watch the baby for a few hours while the mother slept, but we don't live in multigenerational households any more.

But in as much support as you can afford - the better rested and more relaxed you are with your baby the better for you and baby.

What you need might depend on the baby to a point - one of my dcs was a very efficient night feeder so I wouldn't have needed a night nurse, but I would have loved someone to come in at 8am so I could hand the baby over and have a shower/go back to bed for a few hours. If they had done a bit of housework as well that would have been great.

With my other dc I would have done anything for someone to do the night settling as he took 45 mins to settle after every feed.

Okeydoky · 18/07/2022 07:56

When I was pregnant I was planning to have a night nanny, but I was scuppered by the pandemic.

I'm actually really pleased because I completely surprised myself by breastfeeding and cosleeping. I just couldn't sleep if baby wasn't right next to me. Cosleeping meant I got about 12 hours of sleep a night, waking every couple of hours for a dozy feed. It was lovely and I really treasure those memories.

What I would have found really helpful was for someone to come in for a few hours during the day to do the cleaning and the washing, make me a hot meal and hold baby whilst I had a shower or a little lie down. That would have been bliss.

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