If you felt disconnected to baby in pregnancy did it get better?

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Just that really. I feel nothing at all and expected to by now! I’m due in a few weeks and feel like I don’t know them at all, no feeling there, just a vague irritation when they move. I’m not interested in being a mum and I do things out of process. Ashamed to admit I feel even less since learning it’s a boy a few weeks ago.

Surprised as I always thought I would love it all from day one!!

I felt completely detached through all three of my pregnancies. I fell for DD pretty quickly once if gotten over the shock of labour. It took me a few months with ds as I had dd to worry about and things were generally busier. Don't worry!

@CallmeMrsPricklepants thanks. At the moment I honestly feel like if I woke up and wasn’t pregnant I wouldn’t care! I just feel so indifferent and thought it would change. Tried talking to them etc but doesn’t help 😂

Don't worry, I think it's fairly normal but nothing something most women shout about, I think it is difficult until they are born and it is more 'real'

I felt no connection to either baby in pregnancy. Immediately knew and adored them when they were born. I tend to think all of this “I loved you from the moment of the pregnancy test” thing is hyperbole.

I've never been the softly rubbing bump while staring into the distance kind of woman. Pregnancy was very functional for me. I had also assumed I wouldn't like the child, because children are awful (when they're not your own). I was genuinely surprised I liked my own child when she turned up and I'd read enough about bonding to know it might take a few months like it did with my ds. Having said that I found the first 18 months pretty tough both times, far far easier when they can talk start to have funny conversations!

Took me a while tbh. Developed PND so it was several months before I could enjoy life with her.

I felt disconnected in my pregnancies, and was worried as everyone else seemed so in love already. I took me a while for me to love and feel connected to my first 2. For my 3rd I loved her straight away, I think it just took a while for the first 2 as it's such a huge adjustment and change and shock. Don't worry if you're not feeling the "right" feelings. Everyone is different and it takes different times for everyone.

i’ve got three children and never bonded before they were born - I always fell in love when they were babies, but it took a couple of months.

Oh and I’ve no mental health issues and neither have the children.

I remember thinking that being pregnant and having a baby were two different states.. I found it difficult to compute that pregnancy would lead to having a baby. I knew I

This was the same as me.
I need to know a person before I become attached to them!

The pregnancy to which I was the most attached produced the baby with whom I struggled the most to bond. I was really shocked to feel nothing for him after having caressed and spoke to my bump, but I did have a terrible birth. It took months to build that bond but I love him so much now.

With the second baby I didn't feel much while pregnant, but adored her as soon as she was born. She is brilliant and we all love her so much.

Just had my third. While pregnant, I had no real feelings for her other than being responsible and looking after myself to protect her. Absolutely adore her. I could kiss her chubby chops all day long.

It all evens out in the end!

I felt just like that, I hope its normal
I didn't really feel pregnant, so didn't feel connected at all the babies.
I felt bad about it at the time, like I was going to be a crap mum because I couldn't feel anything emotional towards them.

It took a little while after they were born for the love to kick in. When it did I loved them more than I have loved anyone and they felt so much more like a part of me than when I was pregnant was them.
We have been very close and very connected since then.

Yeah, I didn't feel connected or bonded during pregnancy or even for a few months after birth - was just handed this tiny creature and was like, What now?! Honestly you don't get much out of them for a few months because they're just potatoes in blankets.

It's hard to be connected or bonded with someone you just don't know!

He's nearly two now and I adore him, he's so funny and sweet.

Hated being pregnant with DC2. Hated it even more when everyone kept saying, it’ll be over soon and you’ll have a baby. I didn’t want a baby, I wanted them to turn up about aged 4 being all potty trained and verbal 😅 I was nowhere near as interested as I was being pregnant with DC1.

Ironically, bonded straight away, compared to DC1 who ended up surprisingly in NICU, and five years on he’s the biggest mummy’s boy going.

I felt the same as you. I've always wanted a baby always thought I'd be a good parent. since I was a kid myself I just knew I wanted 2 babies, boy first then the girl. I got my little boy I wanted, but still feel disconnected think I might have PND but after 3 years is it still a thing?
I couldnt bond through pregnancy either.
I hope it's different for you though. Have you got everything ready for his arrival?

Same for me. My first pregnancy was a surprise at an awkward time and I felt like an alien had invaded me. Loved dc immediately on birth but finally got the Hollywood rush at about 10 weeks in the middle of a wee small hours feed. Second pregnancy was planned but I still felt disconnected and invaded. Got the rush quicker but still a few days after birth. They are the absolute lights of my life (and I theirs) now, really close and loving. Pregnancy was very much a means to an end for me. Best of luck for a safe delivery, OP.