I'm flirting but I'm married!!

[helpim]

I've been with DH for 10 years. We've had a sexless marriage for 2 years now and things haven't been great. In fact I told him I didn't love him about 6 months ago. He's not been the best to live with for 2 years but we've managed to stay together and we have a young ds.

We are more like friends than anything else. Not great friends at that. There's no contact, no emotion, no kissing or hugs etc.

In our whole relationship I've never so much as even flirted with anyone but the past few days I've found myself really craving something I've not had for so long. A flirty old friend got in touch and we've met up briefly and been messaging very very flirty.

I'm at the point I think I would actually take things further just for the excitement.

I'm not sure why I'm writing this post. I think I just need to hear some neutral advice.

You say flirty "old" friend - does that mean an older person or someone from a long time back? Sorry, it really doesn't matter.

Argh I can hear how you feel about your relationship - is it a serious post looking for advice? If so:
If you want an open relationship because you have a sexless marriage, but don't want to break up because of your son, then discuss with your partner. It sounds like a bad idea but I guess it works for some people!
If you want to end the relationship - break up first before succumbing to temptation from a flirty friend.
If you don't want to break up and don't want an open relationship (or think that likely wouldn't fly) then stop talking to this friend immediately and speak to your partner instead.

As you probably know all the options really involve you talking to your partner - which probably isn't what your gut (ahem) is telling you to do right now but I think that's why you asked the internet.

I'm sure I probably just posted on a troll post

I'm definitely not a troll 😄

I am very confused tho.
DH would I never agree to an open relationship, I've tried talking to him many times but he doesn't think there's anything wrong.

It sucks but sounds like things need a change. Do you want your relationship with your partner to work or are you over it and just staying for your son? In no world I can imagine does flirting with your friend work out for the best in the long run, which is stupid but true

Sounds like you need a divorce, no point being in an unhappy marriage.

Don’t cheat. End your relationship and then start another if you wish to. That gives you the best chance of an amicable co parenting relationship with your sons father in the future.

I've tried to end it several times but DH just gets incredibly nasty. I believe wholeheartedly we've grown apart and would love to separate on friendly terms but DH is the opposite

If you’re tempted by another person then speak to your husband and tell him.
What do you want from your marriage? You sound really unhappy and it’s not fair to remain together for the sake of your child. Your child can still have a happy life with you two separated.
Theres no judgement from me, I’ve been in a similar situation. Don’t do anything with the other guy until you make up your mind because you’ll end up confused about what you want and might regret anything you do.

Why are you still in the marriage, op? No sex, you don’t love him and you’re enjoying flirting with someone else. Get out and live your life.

Oh shit this is rubbish.
I think I'm just scared, DH can be very volatile so I've got to the stage i just don't say anything anymore.

2 years down the line and out the blue in flirting and I love it.
This isn't what I'd planned.

@lickenchugget I 100% agree