If you settled down very quickly in your 30s, how did it work out?

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I've been single for a long time and truthfully never had relationships before that, just stupid flings.

I've recently met a really lovely guy. I honestly couldn't ask for more and he's been very forthcoming about wanting kids and wanting to settle down (with the right person) sooner rather than later. I really feel like he's a partner in things, if that makes any sense.

I also feel like there's so much pressure from everyone I've told! When are we meeting parents, is it serious, when are we giving everyone a day out etc and I'll admit it's kind of got to me. But also I know I don't have time to go slow because I also really want kids and I'm 32, nearly 33.

I met dh at 30, married at 31. I’m now 49, he’s mid 50s and it’s still going mostly well! We had first dd at 36 and second at 39. It felt right from the start. Didn’t feel clock ticking etc but knew I wanted to settle down.

Thank you.

Met at 34, married at 36, had DS aged 37 and DD aged 39. Takes the faff out of dating when you're both on the same page with longterm life goals. Sounds like you're happy. Congratulations!

Met at 33, married at 36 and immediately got pregnant with DD1. Now have another DD. We both wanted the same things & were like peas in a pod from day 1!

I went from single to married with a baby in less than 3 years. All good.

Did you have moments of thinking wtf and how did that all happen so quickly?

Dated, married and had a baby in 28 months. Still happily married ten years later.

Met DH at 34 (him 6 years younger), were married within 3 years, had DS a year later and are very happy almost 10 years later 😊If it feels right, go for it!

I met, married, bought a house and had a baby with DH within 2.5 years.

I honestly don’t know what I was thinking now, but it just seemed right. We are both really sensible, boring, think everything through types, but just threw caution to the wind! Been happily married now for 20 years 😀

Met DH just before I turned 29. Married at 39, 2 kids by time I was 35. We have now been married 13 and mostly very happy.. although a lottery win would help. X

That should say married at 30. 🙄

Married at 31 1/2 , an arranged marriage only met my husband twice including the actual wedding day. First baby at 34, hopefully more of those soon. Very happy with my decisions so far. 4 yrs married this July

Same as the other posts. Met at 31, married at 32, baby at 33. We didn't have a long memory of life without kids together but it's just a minor quibble. It's so lovely to meet a man who actually has his sh** together and is ready to commit! We're now 46 and all is good

My sister was engaged within 6 months , married within a year and first baby a year later. Still happily married decades on. I met my DH young so we were a few years before marrying but we knew we would within 6 months. Together nearly 30 years now.

Not in my thirties but we had our first pretty quickly, know a couple of people who were the same. It was absolutely fine but definitely could have not been! I will say having our second was easier emotionally as we were more settled in the relationship and just knew each other better. However, we also didn't have loads of time to fall in to bad habits before kids came along with things like split of chores.

Dated at 31, married and bought a house at 32 and baby at 34.

Been together 25 years.

Thought I'd met the perfect man but we ended up divorced. We did everything too quick and because of this we just didn't really know each other. We are better as friends than in a relationship.

Met young (teens) and married / bought house / DC x2 by mid 20s.

30s were a whirlwind. Raised kids, worked hard and moved up the house & career ladders, saw quite a lot of the world as a family. In hindsight a very busy but good phase. Busy and exciting enough to masks the cracks appearing.

40, both realised we'd been very busy with 'life', were a good parenting team, but hadn't invested enough in 'us' and there was now distance. Acknowledgement we were probably now heading in different directions.

Mid 40s and amicably divorced, both living our lives how we want, co-parenting fantastic young adult kids.
No ex grief, just a mutual respect for each other as people and the life chapter we shared & built.

So not fairytale perfect by any means, but happy, optimistic for the future and no regrets about the past.