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I'm dreading tomorrow- any tips?

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DueyCheatemAndHow · 14/07/2022 19:04

Currently on holiday. Return tomorrow. MIl and Step FIL are staying in our house at the moment to attend step BIL's graduation.

Our children are nearly 4 and 2. This will be the 2nd time our youngest has met step FIl. They moved hundreds of miles away just before she was born.

DH - and by extension us - is treated like a second class citizen. So many examples. Last year I had an accident. We paid for MIL to fly to help us. It then emerged she was paying for DH's half-sibling's driving lessons (they are adults). She used DH's savings when he was young to buy a car, now she is in a better situation she's never repaid it.

His 21st... they didn't bother doing anything... she doesn't find it odd that now they throw his half siblings massive parties.

They r indifferent to our children. Last time they stayed I vowed never again but here we are. After last time DH called them out on it but was basically told.he was being unfair.

I'm dreading it. I hate them

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DueyCheatemAndHow · 14/07/2022 19:07

Sorry there are so many examples. Step FIL once joked about punching our DS in the face..we once had to placate a screaming baby DS because FIL wanted to teach step BIL how to do doughnuts in a car.

He once said that if his kids moved abroad he'd have to move because he'd miss them so much. When DH said we'd thought of the USA he said 'well don't expect anyone to visit you'

I'm already bubbling with anger.

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godmum56 · 14/07/2022 19:08

So why did you invite them?

DueyCheatemAndHow · 14/07/2022 19:12

We didn't. They asked f they could stay and then see the kids. Now turns out they are leaving Saturday morning. So will barely see the children.

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User0ne · 14/07/2022 19:18

Well thank goodness you don't have to spend much time with them!

And next time they ask to stay say no

DueyCheatemAndHow · 14/07/2022 19:21

Thing is it will.be enough time for the kids to get upset. And for MIl to say 'she's had her fix' which makes me want to deck her.

I've tried with DH. He says if i want to say no we can but I don't feel that's fair.

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Ilikewinter · 14/07/2022 19:23

Sounds like a blessing in disguise that they are leaving, next time they ask to visit or stay just tell them no.

Delatron · 14/07/2022 19:23

Tell them you have picked up a highly infectious illness and they need to go to a hotel by the time you get back.

Then don’t invite them again if they are like that (or say no when they invite themselves).

Them ‘can we stay with you?’
You ‘No sorry that’s not convenient for us’

They don’t need to stay with you to see the children.

Imissmoominmama · 14/07/2022 19:26

Yup- you’ve brought Covid back so they’ll have to bugger off before you get back.

Shame really…

DueyCheatemAndHow · 14/07/2022 19:43

Just suggested that to DH. He said 'If you want to'

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maddiemookins16mum · 14/07/2022 19:43

How unfortunate that your travel arrangements (car? ferry? flight?) will be delayed tomorrow.

DueyCheatemAndHow · 14/07/2022 19:44

Car. I've flirted with that.

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