Anyone lost a lot of weigh? Were you treated differently?

[HighHiHopes]

I have lost almost 100lbs.

Previously I was quite invisible I guess. I had several incidents of men going directly out of their way to be hurtful about my looks (I was very depressed and didn't take care of myself in any way at all)

Since losing the weight I feel people are much nicer to me. I haven't had any nasty comments at all. I get lots more smiles.
I get doors opened for me. I get freebies in stores and the people in boots offer to do my make up or ask me if I wnat to try perfume (rather than pretending to fiddle with something as I walked past before)

DH who has never been a lb over weight in his life reckons it just cannot be true. That a whole society of people would be nicer to someone because they weren't fat.

I definitely get more attention from men/women now (checked out and stuff)

I guess because of my loss I have started to do my hair, wear much nicer clothes, nicer shoes, get my legs out, do my make up etc...

But it goes beyond that. Even people at school say hello when they didn't before.

So am I alone in this experience? Am I imaging it or is it a thing?

I do believe you that you get more attention.

I think it's probably down to the fact that you have more confidence now, look generally happier, don't avoid eye contact, etc.

No,it's definitely not your imagination! I've lost 98 lbs in weight over the last couple of years and I've noticed a distinct shift in a lot of people's attitude towards me.

I suppose I do look better to people an d maybe that makes me a bit more confident but I suffer from and anxiety disorder so am still not an outgoing person at all! I don't think I've changed much in regards to being more sociable tbh!

Definitely not your imagination

It’s definitely a thing, people are much nicer

Definitely happens.

I have been thinner and fatter and there absolutely is a difference in how men mostly people treat you.

I used to have a colleague who all of a sudden became SO flirty because I lost a couple of stone. Gross.

It's definitely a thing.

Wow! How did you do it?

It’s a thing. I’ve been all sizes weight-wise and people are definitely nicer to you when you’re thin - not just men either!

It is definitely a thing. And nothing to do with confidence either because I am more confident and make more of an effort now and I am the fattest I've ever been.

Yes sadly it definitely a thing.

Yes I definitely have noticed this. I’ve lost 30lbs so nowhere near as amazing as your loss but I definitely get treated differently. It makes me really uncomfortable.

Yes it’s bizarre. I’ve only lost a quarter of what you’ve done (well done btw!) and even my own family are different towards me. I’ve been surprised when the school mums started speaking to me and Jen they hadn’t previously. I’m no more approachable, my self esteem is still on the floor annoyingly so it’s clearly just based on my looks.

This is crazy and I hate that it's a thing. People "saw" me when I was a couple of stone lighter than now.
Now I just make my presence known with my big booming laugh and colourful prints. It's shite.

Yes and yes. I went from size 18-20 to 6-8 and now maintain at around a 6. Men always flirted because I have big boobs but women were more rude to me when I lost weight. Definitely had friends and colleagues treat me differently though, either jealousy or suddenly being interested in me.

I’ve done the opposite and sadly see it from the other side. I’m not overweight, I was underweight but definitely get treated differently.

I'm glad that it's not all in my head but also sad that so many people can confirm it's true.

It's such a strange phenomenon

Yep 100% is a thing. I've experienced it both ways-- nicer when you lose weight and disgusted/dismissive/mean when you put on weight.

Yes, 18 to 8 and visible again after 10 years not visible. Thankfully don’t care at my age but was surprising the first few times. Thought I’d come out with food down my t shirt or something!