Can we analyse Carrie and Mr Big (fairly lighthearted)

[Rosewaterblossom]

From watching them from season 1, where carrie was desperately trying to create some sort of relationship, but he was older, been there done that type scenario, so was quite casual and cautious. She found herself "actually posing", a phrase I've recently learnt can be true (as I've found myself in this scenario) so can relate. But I don't think Big actually did much wrong in the early days, he was just, him, and wasn't going to rush into anything too soon in the way carrie wanted them too.

Then skip to season 5/6, they've somehow built a comfortable friendship/sex is always on the menu relationship build purely on history and a mutual like/being comfortable with eachother. I've found myself in the exact same position (No pun intended).

Over the seasons, how did you interpret their situation?

Ooh I'll read this with interest ! I wish she'd felt more powerful in the FWB situation
I still felt she was somehow beholden to him.

Saw your title and took me a moment to realise that you were talking about SATC... thought you were referring to BoJo as Mr Big... 🤢

I think she was always beholden to him but maybe over the years, the reason he found her more endearing and attracted was because she lost the neediness of the early days, chilled out and it became and mutual banter/history/genuine love for one another?

I agree op
The episode with the church and his mum, that seemed way over the top. If you don't want someone to meet parents yet that should be respected.

😂😂

I think she was too intense at the beginning and wanted the big love as she thought she needed it at that age. I also think they met at the wrong time, so just didn't quite line up? She was rushing it and needed another serious relationship first to figure herself out, and he needed to realize he didnt have to rush and just get married to the right woman on paper- Natasha. When they did finally line up they had both chilled out in their own ways and could have more respect for each other? Or something like that!

I never saw Natasha as the right woman on paper. I just saw it as him marrying a pretty younger woman tbh.

I never understood why he was posited as the bad guy; Carrie was bloody awful! So needy, so attention seeking, all “me, me, me”. She was like that as a friend as well; she’s not someone I’d have wanted to be mates with.

Big was far more laconic - older and more secure in himself. That episode where he was marrying Natasha and she asked “why not me?”, he told her - she was just bloody hard work. And that was basically right. In real life, I think someone like Big would either have gone for a Miranda type (driven, educated and in a professional role) or someone more like Charlotte (perfect traditional wife). Carrie not so much.

No I don't think he would have gone for miranda or Charlotte. I think he liked carrie in the end because of the shared history/comfortable banter and I think he found her endearing.