How do I make space for myself.

[Mrsbluesk1]

Do you have your own space in your home if married with children? My husband has a guest room as his office, and we all respect it, and wouldn’t go into his space. The children and I have the rest of the house I guess. The frustrating thing is, I’ll start a project (craft, fixing jeans, etc) and find my things are moved, disturbed or just in my own way in the communal areas. This has never bothered me, but I suddenly feel miserable not having somewhere that is just mine, and I think I created the problem by living with it for so many years now.

How do you go about having a designated area just for yourself? Am I being selfish thinking like this?

I can understand why you would want that : I split up with a boyfriend as he wouldn’t give me space in a house when I moved in with him…

look around the house : is there a corner you could use?

Or could you share the guest room with your husband outside working hours … like he uses it to work & you use it in the evenings, and have a craft cart or a small table or something? This seems like an ideal solution as it’s not the kids/family space

I think wanting your OWN space is really natural- kids have their rooms etc

well done for sticking your ground, You need somewhere to feel home I think., I feel the kids things overflow into our tv/dining areas as well. My husband is not the tidiest of people. So it’s actually great he has a confined space. I just go in there once a day to remove the 20 tea cups that make it up there through the day.

I love my family, but already looking forward to my kids going off to university… might be a long way off though.

thank you for the ideas, just brainstorming now.

Good luck in marking out a bit of territory as you prob need a bit of thinking /processing /planning /being you time!

Wouldn't be going in to pick up 20 coffee cups though, now that is a bad habit!! 🤦🏻‍♀️😜

I've never had the luxury of having my own space. My only 'space' is my wardrobe and chest of drawers (or Chester Draws 😱). I guess I don't need space, but I like having MY things.

I will be getting a home office soon and I guess it will be mine, as I WFH, but no doubt the childrens stuff will end up in there.

Haha 😂 If I don’t collect them, we wouldn’t have any in the kitchen. Might have exaggerated, but it is cups and glasses.

Even my wardrobe is shared I guess. I hide all the birthday gifts, Christmas gifts in there.

wfh is such a good reason to make your own private space.

I don't think it's fair that your husband nabs all the office space. Time he learnt to share and bring his own cups down. You are not staff!