I have become friends with a mum at the school and since Christmas she has asked to borrow money and always given it back, not really in the time frame’s that we agreed but l was never without but it left me really stretched, after the last time l have said no.
Then she started telling me she had no food, so l gave her a bit of what we had in the cupboard and started telling her about the food banks that were available around our area. She rang me yesterday crying and said there was nothing in the cupboards, l was in work so went to the shop and got a tin of beans and bread, l would eat that for my tea and the kids would too. Then last night l checked my freezers and l have given her some things but said that’s it now, she asked if l could take her kids to school which was fine as l was there, but then her older child was crying because he didn’t have a leavers t shirt which are £5 and she didn’t have the money until Friday. I just feel so so So bad but l have come to the point l just can’t help anymore, especially when l don’t see her helping herself.
What makes me feel worse is afterwards l had to do my weekly shop, l feel like a fraud, l could help but then l feel like l would end up supporting her, which then would make impact my kids life/ finance situation.