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Residential Trips away (yr 5) and no contact allowed

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loupiots · 13/07/2022 10:22

I do agree that the children shouldn’t have phones, and I understand that the teachers are busy and don’t have time to update parents.

I miss my DS though, and I’m a worrier- I wish I could just check he was ok. (If anything was amiss, they’d let me know, right?)

I was stupid enough to tell dh that I missed ds, and just got a load of stuff back about how it would be character building and make him more mature - all of which is probably true, but doesn’t actually help me at all 😒

Back on Friday - not long to go and he’s probably having the best time.

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CoastalWave · 13/07/2022 10:25

No news is good news.

I grew up in the 80s pre mobile phones. Perfectly normal. Although I can understand for younger people (20s and 30s) they're used to being in constant contact.

Your child will be absolutely fine.

maslinpan · 13/07/2022 10:26

Trust the teachers. They will know that any potential homesickness is made worse if kids contact their parents, they will also contact asap should there be any problem. Hopefully your DS is having such a good time that he is probably not thinking about home at all, that's how it should be!

LolaSparkle · 13/07/2022 10:33

When my DS went on his Y5 residential, the school sent text updates to all the parents throughout the trip. They weren't child specific but they helped me feel a bit more comforted that he was having a whale of a time. And he did!! Absolutely loved it, but as you can imagine 6 year 5 boys in a room = no sleep so it took the whole weekend to catch up 😂😂
Also, I found it went by super fast 🙂

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loupiots · 13/07/2022 10:37

All true, thanks 😊 They would let me if anything was wrong.

Hopefully, he’s having a 🐳 of a time.

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Quartz2208 · 13/07/2022 10:40

Yes they would let you know if they needed to. No news is good news!

Julen7 · 13/07/2022 10:41

My year 5 daughter has just been away for 3 nights on residential and the school posted updates with photos on the website. I could see how much fun they were all having. And yes they would let you know if there was anything amiss (but there rarely is). Your DS will come back happy but tired 😊

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 13/07/2022 10:42

I know how you feel - but as PP said schools say no contact because it can induce or worsen homesickness, which wouldn't be great for either of you.

Try to find lots of things to do to distract you x

Yodaisawally · 13/07/2022 10:44

DTs are away at the moment and back on Friday too. We are getting a photo each day and they all look very happy, and hot!

Madmog · 13/07/2022 10:45

Residential are partly about the experience, but also a step to them becoming independent. Obviously you're going to miss them and worry, but school staff have been doing residentials for years and they'll be someone there who knows your DC and can offer the best level of support, if really needed. Your DS is probably having lots of fun with his friends.

Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 13/07/2022 10:49

Ahh I felt like that too. It's the no contact worry. I bet your son is having so much fun and will tell you all about it Friday! And sleep well Friday night 😀

It does make sense for the schools not to contact parents, they'd spent so much time updating them and it would also make the homesickness worse.

Only two days left and you can give him a big cuddle 😁

Notagain76 · 13/07/2022 10:50

my kids school sent regular updates, oldest DD hated every part of it and cried for the whole 5 days, next DD loved every minute, DS didn’t enjoy it and lived on apples, toast and crisps but was fine my youngest DS never got chance to go which was good as has sen. Although eldest hated everything she said teachers were lovely they just had horrendous weather and all the plans had to change, was nothing school could of done. Regarding DS food intake it was his choice and again school done everything they could to get him to eat, he survived. The teachers are also away from their families and aren’t heartless

popandchoc · 13/07/2022 10:51

They would definitely contact if any issues. We got to see pictures which was nice to see they were happy and having fun.

FarFarFarAndAway · 13/07/2022 10:53

They would definitely contact you. Our school did say one reassuring text a day. They do contact you if there's a problem, one of my daughter had a concussion and was sent home! No major problems but they did let me know immediately. So no news really is good news on this one.

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loupiots · 13/07/2022 11:52

The universe must have heard me moaning 😂

We have just received some photos!

In one of them, he’s got a beaming smile and is in his wetsuit on a paddle board. In another one, he is fast asleep on a bench! I think he may be missing out on some shuteye in the dorm…

Anyway, I feel heaps better for seeing his face.

Thank you all for being so kind (and wise) about my worries.

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