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Facebook school brags

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crispsandnuts · 13/07/2022 10:03

Oh no it's started!
'Little jimmy smashed his school report, he's amazing in every way, pleased I've did summit right'

Always with bad grammar and passive aggressive ... for attention seek.

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liveforsummer · 13/07/2022 10:05

Just scroll on and let them have their proud parent moment. Why does it bother you so much?

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crispsandnuts · 13/07/2022 10:07

I'm just being light hearted, I really don't care. It just amuses me how different people are and how fake it all is.

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Hoolahulahoop · 13/07/2022 10:09

If you need to brag online.. there's something wrong somewhere. In this scenario you ring granny or favourite aunt and have a really good brag for god's sake.

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liveforsummer · 13/07/2022 10:10

Why are you assuming it's fake? I'm sure they are genuinely proud even if their kids drive them mad for the majority of the time. My dc are older now so no one bothers with this but at the start of school years parents do get a bit excited over small achievements- it's fine.

Theladybirdthatsaidboo · 13/07/2022 10:10

Just ignore it. I wouldn’t dream of putting anything about my children’s reports on FB, mostly because it’s private as far as I’m concerned (see also photos of children when sick/upset/undressed), but live and let live and all that.

I have to say I’ve never actually seen any of my FB contacts brag about their children’s reports though, it can’t be that common, so maybe just get less annoying FB friends?

SummerHouse · 13/07/2022 10:12

"Proud mummy alert..." I get you, but I don't really like my thoughts on this. I know from experience that you never know what battles parents are facing behind the scenes and I also know how important it is to celebrate the wins. I do that privately, but I do see why someone might want to share / seek validation. I try to share the joy, but if my irritation wins out, I scroll on by asap.

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crispsandnuts · 13/07/2022 10:14

It's fake because the report is almost identical to my DS, copy and paste alert by teacher.
Plus little jimmy has been in bother for attendance.
But yes, I mute and unfollow annoying people on friends list

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crispsandnuts · 13/07/2022 10:16

liveforsummer · 13/07/2022 10:10

Why are you assuming it's fake? I'm sure they are genuinely proud even if their kids drive them mad for the majority of the time. My dc are older now so no one bothers with this but at the start of school years parents do get a bit excited over small achievements- it's fine.

Yes I think it'll die down when kids are older and can see/cringe what parents have put on social media

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SpaceJamtart · 13/07/2022 10:16

Can't tell what is passive aggressive about it?

I can't get all wound up about it, its just people being proud of their kids. Any post on facebook is attention seeking anyway, nobody who posts on there does it to with the hope that it is never seen.

ForTheLoveOfSleep · 13/07/2022 10:18

My cousin had done this. "So proud of my boy. Working at greater depth in all areas. Adult reading age #proudmummy" etc.

2 hours later her exhusband posted a pic of said child's report where it showed he is working at expected levels in all but maths and reading which are both below expected.

Best just to scroll on.

HereIfYouNeedMe · 13/07/2022 10:18

Honestly I'm so happy I grew up with privacy. That's the main issue with kids online

liveforsummer · 13/07/2022 10:22

Kids won't see your Facebook posts - teens there's days wouldn't be seen dead on Facebook 😆. It's all about Snapchat and instagram, it's just that the novelty wears off but I don't expect it's fake hair because I'm hasn't realised it's a generic report. If your got a school refusing child giving you grey hairs each day then any win might make you feel proud or at least pretending to the online world might go some way in helping you believe it yourself. I do have some over sharers on my Facebook but I'm aware there are reasons behind why they do this. Usually down to their own self esteem.

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crispsandnuts · 13/07/2022 10:27

liveforsummer · 13/07/2022 10:22

Kids won't see your Facebook posts - teens there's days wouldn't be seen dead on Facebook 😆. It's all about Snapchat and instagram, it's just that the novelty wears off but I don't expect it's fake hair because I'm hasn't realised it's a generic report. If your got a school refusing child giving you grey hairs each day then any win might make you feel proud or at least pretending to the online world might go some way in helping you believe it yourself. I do have some over sharers on my Facebook but I'm aware there are reasons behind why they do this. Usually down to their own self esteem.

Yes definitely self esteem led. However their lack of modestly/not being humble and over sharing can the affect the self esteem if others thinking their lives don't meet those standards, Vicious circle I guess

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Miriam101 · 13/07/2022 10:37

My God nobody I know does this! How excruciating. Argh I feel so embarrassed for them just thinking about it

NerrSnerr · 13/07/2022 10:46

Even if his attendance is poor maybe it's a great report for that child. Not every child is over achieving in every way and maybe they're proud because this year he tried really hard in lessons or caught up to his peers in reading.

I wouldn't post my children's reports personally but I can't get worked up about those who do.

TheFeistyFeminist · 13/07/2022 10:52

I'm a bit torn here. The whole hashtag proud mummy thing is a bit grim, but I did take to FB to express surprise and pride after parents' evening. Without specific details and no screenshot of the report or anything. I guess I expect any child of ours to have a head start in subjects we were good at, but this time we were hearing high praise from teachers across other subjects, and it's because of the amount of effort being put in.

Sharing that with people who care about her but who are many miles away seems entirely reasonable to me.

ThisBloodyWeatherIsKillingMe · 13/07/2022 10:55

I know someone like that. Her kid has apparently managed to swim "2 meters" 😂

UnimpeachableBravery · 13/07/2022 10:58

The people I follow on Facebook care about my kid and like to know about her achievements. Why is that a bad thing?

11Hawkins · 13/07/2022 11:00

One of the reasons I'm glad I ditched Facebook. 😁

greyinganddecaying · 13/07/2022 11:01

I do post but tend to stick to "put in lots of effort" rather than results/grades etc - mainly because I think that's the important bit.

Mocca8 · 13/07/2022 11:02

Heehee I have some friends like this on fb and are so boastful it's actually cringe worthy. Who talks about themselves like that to the world. I do have a giggle roll my eyes and scroll on. Some people need validation in their life. I'm more private and modest and find it crass to boast and brag but then that's just me. Everyone's different. Let them be and know you don't need to be a bragger 🥰

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crispsandnuts · 13/07/2022 11:34

Yes it seems privacy and modesty is lacking thanks to social media.
I also know a preteen age child who has his own fb account and reads his separated parents sniping at each other on posts and reading their dramatic memes. Then people wonder why kids have mental health issues.
Maybe I'm too old and grumpy to understand the logic behind it all Smile

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