Oh God I'd better tell my black husband I'm racist. How will my mixed race kids take it?
Of course his previous experiences of his keeping up the charade was what made him seem off to me, I didn't know what it was so it wasn't being judgemental of anything that happened to him, it was just how he came across to me. I suppose you could say he didn't seem genuine or comfortable with it which is how most honest people would feel if they were in that position so the fact he wasn't happy with it is being positive about him.
The thing that is interesting is that people feel that sensing that is somehow negative about him when it is actually the situation he was in. I'm sure he will be more comfortable and much happier now it is out. It must be very hard to live with that and that is without the trauma behind it. If you read about people in witness protection, people who are innocent of anything and who have bravely done the right thing, they say it is hard to live with and sometimes they choose to face the danger rather than continue in safety. So it isn't judging them it actually understanding how hard that is.