I’ve been ghosted

[Flamingofeathers]

I’ve been ghosted, by someone I’d built up some feelings for and we’d slept together. At the moment I’m not feeling too bad.. but I am worried I’m going to start wallowing.

Please can I have ideas for things to do/ positive encouragement instead.

How long was you seeing eachother before you was ghosted?
Things to do- Go and do things with friends or by yourself, go shopping or treat yourself online, get your hair done, go the gym, nails done...things like that and realise it's their loss!! Decent people don't ghost, good people are honest and direct so this person loses points straight away and is obviously an arsehole.

We slept together on 4 separate occasions but had known eachother longer. I think I’m more upset about the fact he obviously didn’t respect me at all to not tell me than I am it actually being over

I'm really sorry this has happened to you genuinally. I've come across my fair share of idiots who have disrespected me. What I realised is respecting myself is what's important so if someone treats me like shit I won't give them my energy or mental space. It's hard to get in that mind set but worth the effort. People like that aren't worth your time and you deserve better. Life is short- try not get too attached early on when dating. Make them wait for sex and let them invest time and effort in you first. It shows them from the start your a catch and won't take no messing. It also filters out the dick heads and the ones who are actually like you will be respectful and wait for when you're ready. You don't have to take ny advice but I definitely think it could help you. Hope you're ok 💐

It's hurtful when you invest yourself in someone and they let you down. You find yourself wondering why.. what you did, what you said, to put them off when it's none of those things.

I recently reconnected with an old friend of many years and we were emailing one another reminiscing about lots of things and talking about our lives now. She just stopped. I wondered why. Was it something I said? I felt as if I was being judged.
I went back and re-read some of our emails and realised she was not as kind as I remembered and her recall of events was not quite the same as mine and in some instances she was condescending.

Sometimes they do you a favour when they ghost you. At the time you do not realise this.