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Excessive party worries

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Partymumofonly · 10/07/2022 07:28

I'm planning my DS 4th birthday party for late November, I'm making a lot of the decorations myself hence the early planning. We've booked a "pirate" who is coming along to do games for an hour as well as glitter tattoos, a "mermaid" to do face painting and also someone to set up and host pirate skills stations like digging for treasure etc.

He's an only child and we are lucky enough to be able to afford it and none of it is hugely expensive individually though obviously it add up all together.

It's in a community hall, simple party tea as it's the afternoon, small party bags, but I'm now worried that other parents are going to hate me for thinking it's to excessive in this climate especially as November will be when everyone will be feeling the bite of cost of living. Or am I overthinking and parents will just be happy their kids (hopefully) enjoyed their time at the party?

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KangarooKenny · 10/07/2022 07:30

Yes, you’re overthinking it. Do you have anxiety ?

PizzaPatel · 10/07/2022 07:31

Overthinking

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Partymumofonly · 10/07/2022 07:32

KangarooKenny · 10/07/2022 07:30

Yes, you’re overthinking it. Do you have anxiety ?

Yes I do tend to overthink things and worry what others think of me

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Moltenpink · 10/07/2022 07:32

It sounds lovely.

acornpattern · 10/07/2022 07:34

Definitely over thinking. Sounds lovely and very similar to lots of parties I've been to. It's not like the other parents are paying so I'm sure they won't think it's excessive.

pastabest · 10/07/2022 07:39

I've been to many 4 year olds birthday parties.

there really is no need to be making decorations in July for a November party. The children won't care how it's decorated as long as there are balloons and party bags.

all the parents will want is somewhere to sit down so they aren't doing the awkward hover, and tea and biscuits.

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Partymumofonly · 10/07/2022 07:40

Thank you all! It started as another friend was complaining about a party her child went to which was a pamper one where the children were all given lots of stuff to take home and she was saying it set a precedent for her child to expect the same and I started to worry. Good to hear I'm the one who is being excessive in my thinking rather than excessive in the party!

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TopCatsTopHat · 10/07/2022 07:41

Lots of parents push the boat out as much as they can for children's birthdays even those who don't have comfortable finances, you don't have to tell people they are hired, say nothing and then discretion saves it being a 'thing'.
It's fine and sounds fun.

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Partymumofonly · 10/07/2022 07:41

pastabest · 10/07/2022 07:39

I've been to many 4 year olds birthday parties.

there really is no need to be making decorations in July for a November party. The children won't care how it's decorated as long as there are balloons and party bags.

all the parents will want is somewhere to sit down so they aren't doing the awkward hover, and tea and biscuits.

Ha ha, I confess I do enjoy crafting the decor so that's probably more for me! Tea, seats and biscuits will be provided 🙂

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Bien22 · 10/07/2022 07:44

It’s a nice thing to be able to do, op. Sounds great and the children will love it and parents should be pleased for their kids. Just enjoy it. 😊

TopCatsTopHat · 10/07/2022 07:45

Partymumofonly · 10/07/2022 07:40

Thank you all! It started as another friend was complaining about a party her child went to which was a pamper one where the children were all given lots of stuff to take home and she was saying it set a precedent for her child to expect the same and I started to worry. Good to hear I'm the one who is being excessive in my thinking rather than excessive in the party!

I think a pamper party is all about impressive take home stuff, while yours is more fun based. The parents might notice it will have needed money to set up but the kids won't and its the kind of party you could recreate yourself if you had a few willing friends/family so giving kids expectations not as bad I don't think. To be honest if you're really hard up any party gives you that kind of stress because it's all out of reach.

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Partymumofonly · 10/07/2022 07:47

Thank you all for your kind and instructiv3 comments, you've made me feel a lot better!

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