I’m one of the posters who said luck and I stand by it.
I was lucky to be born into a family where I was able to be educated. I was lucky that, when I lost one of my first jobs, my family was able to support me for a few months so that I could take time to find a job in my skills area, and not getting stuck in a situation where I was stuck in the minimum wage job I could find just to keep a roof over my head.
I’m luck that I took a shot on a company that entirely paid off. My job is well paid, has a fantastic pension scheme, benefits etc that save me roughly 20% of my salary compared to what I’d have to pay out of pocket for what it covers.
I’m lucky that I don’t have a disability, or was widowed young with no life assurance policy, or had a child with a disability who needed dedicated care not compatible with a career.
I do work very hard. I work long hours managing a large team and lots of complex projects that are often m valued well into the hundreds of millions. I’m completely dedicated to my job and often end up on calls on my days off etc., but so do plenty of people who work for low pay.
I certainly don’t work harder than someone who’s caring for the elderly or disabled and may spend their day dealing with a lot of physical activity, and bodily fluids, or someone who spends their day unblocking sewers.
I’m very, very lucky.
(Incidentally, and while this isn’t about the men, my husband would say the same about his career- luck was definitely a big factor for him).