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Concerned about neighbours DS

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Bombshell101 · 09/07/2022 08:12

There's been a few things that have happened recently that's had me questioning this boys mums parenting and concerned if stuff is happening in their home and don't know what to do??
I'll try be as brief as possible.

These neighbours moved in around 6 months ago. The DM works at my DP place of work 1 day a week and they work together. The first time they spoke the DM disclosed some stuff that had happened to her DS and this meant this had to move away from their original location. He's been expelled from schools due to his behaviour and has to attend a SEN school.

So the recent stuff that's happened..... we were at the park with our kids and our friends children. The neighbours child goes to the park unattended even though his DM is aware he is vulnerable and has behavioural issues. So he wanted to play with our children which we thought was ok as we were there to supervise. Next thing we kind of hear a swear word but weren't sure what he said so asked our children. They said he said get off the f**cking swing little girl and was being intimidating. This little girl who must have been no older than 4 did get off the swing and ran to her dad. So we left the park. Our friend knocked on the neighbours door and told DM partner what had happened as she was at work. Later the DM and boy knocks on friends door says sorry and then asks if boy can come round theirs next week to play. This is not the 1st time. This boy always runs over to friends how and knocks for them apparently.

This boy has also has been known to kick his football at our kids and their heads. Friend has begun saying no to her kids playing with him as he isn't coming across kindly. He has also been round another kids house on the street unattended and began telling the child really graphic details about what had happened to him when he was younger and why he had to move.

So dm knows son who is 9 is vulnerable, has behavioural issues too but continues to let him out in the evenings unattended.

The other night I also heard shouting so loud coming from that house. The man said something like "get off the f**king stairs now".
They seem well spoken put together people. But something does not sit right with me about them but I just don't know what to do?

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KangarooKenny · 09/07/2022 09:23

Firstly, don’t let your kids play with him. You need to protect them from him.
Secondly, if you have concerns you should report them to Social Services or the School Nurse.
People have different ways of parenting and it’s up to these services to decide what is neglect/abuse. Try and stay out of it and away from them.

Bombshell101 · 09/07/2022 12:16

KangarooKenny · 09/07/2022 09:23

Firstly, don’t let your kids play with him. You need to protect them from him.
Secondly, if you have concerns you should report them to Social Services or the School Nurse.
People have different ways of parenting and it’s up to these services to decide what is neglect/abuse. Try and stay out of it and away from them.

Yes we have decided to keep our children away from him.
I feel so bad for him but he has issues which his mum needs to address. She clearly should not be letting him go to the park or other peoples houses that she barely knows unattended.

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Bombshell101 · 09/07/2022 12:20

I heard more shouting but couldn't make out what was said it was going on for about 10 mins.
The woman's partner comes across nice but I've had a bad feeling about him. He made a comment once in a joking manner saying about our children leaving a path of destruction (which they werent) and were we trying to wear them out to get then out of our hair. Bare in mind we hardly know this man and aren't friends with them.

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JanglyBeads · 09/07/2022 12:27

You can report anonymously via NSPCC but it's more helpful to report in person, to his school, children's services or the police 101.

Bombshell101 · 09/07/2022 12:41

JanglyBeads · 09/07/2022 12:27

You can report anonymously via NSPCC but it's more helpful to report in person, to his school, children's services or the police 101.

OK thank you. I think social services were probably involved before they moved away due to what the mum told my partner at work. So maybe this is the best place to call

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