Is this doing nothing?

[TrogLaDyte]

DC broke up today, 5weeks off. DH has the middle three weeks off. Tonight he asked us what our plans are. DH doesn't like going to swimming pools, parks, zoos etc etc i.e. the stuff the DC like doing.

I said DC had asked to go to pool so we will go to the one in X on Monday, then come back do the shopping for the week and take DC1 to a doctors appointment. DH is wfh.
Tuesday, we will go to pool more local in the morning, have lunch, then go to DC1 physio appointment and on to the library.
Wasn't sure about rest of the week except 2hour walk to mini golf, the other physio appointment and MIL wanted to do something with DC and hasn't called me back yet.

"Oh, so nothing then. As usual."

Am I really so wrong not to schedule some big trip every single day? Considering that we don't have much spare cash and are supposed to be saving money. DC need swim practice, especially as DH wants to do water sports with them. DC will be happy to swim every day. But it's not a 40 km bike ride or a 5 hour hike so it doesn't count?

The lights go off when the dc go to bed?

Why?

Bloody hell, how can you bear to remain married to this unmitigated arsehole?

You sound like an absolute saint.

He sounds like a cunt , OP has he always been like this ? He is not in charge of you. How dare he turn the lights off when your children go to bed. What would happen if you turned them back on ? And who is he to tell you that you can't do housework at the weekend ? You need to take back some control or leave , what's he like with money ? I bet he makes all financial decisions

Eurgh. As a child, I mostly just wanted to be left alone with my Enid Blyton books. I HATED enforced activity.

And now that I am a grown-up, I need at least one "human-free" day per week alone and "introverting".

Indeed, I am off work this week and mostly just have 1 appt per day - dentist or whatever. More than enough!

Doing nothing is good! My personal instinct is to over-schedule, but dd has rebelled and I've accepted that I need to listen. Children need to potter and have unstructured time.

Two weeks will be a hiking holiday

Do you want to go on a hiking holiday? I'm guessing not. What would happen if you were to tell him that you're not going?

Did just called me from a friend's house where she went to watch a film: "Somehow we've just spent six hours doing nothing..."

Can you laugh at your H when he talks this way? If you can laugh and feel safe, it's just a difference in personality and it's okay. If it's not safe, then you have a problem.

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