Just that really. Why do men in relationships message other women on social media?
It's happened to me twice this week, people I vaguely know hitting on me in messages on social media - one has been with his girlfriend 2 years and the other one is engaged. I told both of them not to message and pointed out they were in relationships but it was like water off a ducks back (blocked them both).
They have no idea if I'll tell their partners or not but they don't seem worried about it. These men are risking their relationships for … well, what? To ask me for pics/talk dirty to me/random hook up? I just don't get it, if they want something to get off on then porn is freely available. I find it so degrading they show up in my messages thinking I'd entertain them, it genuinely makes me feel like shit. I'm single and I'd love to meet someone to settle down with but I seem to just attract the arseholes that act like dogs on heat, it's never a decent man messaging just some horny idiot in a relationship (they're hardly ever single) and it's really starting to get me down! Not only that but they put me in a position where now I have to decide if I tell their partners or not (I won't because I just don't want the drama). It makes me feel like I'd never be able to trust a man because this is such a frequent thing (I'm average looking so I don't know why, it's not like I'm drop dead gorgeous and posting bikini pics). I'd possibly understand more if we were all in our late teens but we're all late 30s/early 40s. Is it an ego thing? I know it's not just me and that they're trying their luck with 50% of their friends list but it makes me feel shit about myself, like what is it about me that makes them think I'd be down for that type of thing? 🙁