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Urgent - how many to expect??

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Confusedteatowel · 07/07/2022 22:15

Party for toddler DC. Saturday afternoon in mid August. Children from nursery so not people we know well. What proportion would you expect to accept an invitation?

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britneyisfree · 07/07/2022 22:20

I have no idea but I'm sure some one will.

Did you ask them to RSVP?

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Confusedteatowel · 07/07/2022 22:24

@britneyisfree I haven't sent the invites yet 😂

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britneyisfree · 07/07/2022 22:25

Haha fair enough.

I'll guess just for fun... as it's summer holidays people will probably be a bit more busy. So I'd guess about 40-60% will say yes.

How about that?

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BlackAndPinkNose · 07/07/2022 22:27

A tip I picked up on here was to leave a vital piece of info off the invitation so that people have to RSVP to be able to come. That way you know how many to expect

LeafHunter · 07/07/2022 22:28

I’m confused why this is urgent?! I’d expect about 60%

KarrotKake · 07/07/2022 22:30

20% will decline
40% will accept
40% won't reply, and may or may not turn up.

MermaidSwimming · 07/07/2022 22:33

I would expect about 60%to accept but some will forget unless you send a text reminder nearer the time

haggan · 07/07/2022 22:36

Urgent?

IncessantNameChanger · 07/07/2022 22:37

BlackAndPinkNose · 07/07/2022 22:27

A tip I picked up on here was to leave a vital piece of info off the invitation so that people have to RSVP to be able to come. That way you know how many to expect

Exactly this. Or you will have umpteen turn up on the day unexpectedly. I had this. Never again

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Confusedteatowel · 07/07/2022 22:39

40-60 would be perfect 🤞🤞🤞

Urgent because I'm doing the invites now and I cannot have 30 toddlers in my house 🤯

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FAQs · 07/07/2022 22:39

Summer born daughter here, less than half due to holidays.

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Confusedteatowel · 07/07/2022 22:40

40-60% that is

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Confusedteatowel · 07/07/2022 22:41

Thank you @FAQs that's helpful. I want to have a nice turnout for DC but very aware that lots will be away.

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cestlavielife · 07/07/2022 22:44

None at all in august.
Have it in september .
Have you met any other parents at all ?

onepieceoflollipop · 07/07/2022 22:46

One of my dds has an August birthday and we have had almost 100% attendance at parties.
so if you really don’t want to risk 30 toddlers with potentially 1-2 parents each, plus baby siblings, then don’t invite them all…

re the RSVP - about half won’t RSVP at all. Out of those (if you chase them) half will say “of course I am coming, I would have said if x couldn’t attend”. The other half will say the complete opposite “ oops sorry x is not coming - I thought it would be obvious that if x was coming we would have confirmed”

onepieceoflollipop · 07/07/2022 22:48

IME re August birthdays, if most of families only have pre-school age children they probably won’t go on holiday in the school holidays (unless the parents are teachers)
Of course this potentially changes a lot when they start school but even then families are around for 4-5 weeks of the holidays.

EinsteinaGogo · 07/07/2022 22:53

Ooh... what sort of info should you miss off to ensure success??

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Confusedteatowel · 07/07/2022 23:04

Oh Jesus no, they can't all turn up 😭

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onepieceoflollipop · 07/07/2022 23:12

@Confusedteatowel
can you not just invite 6 or 8 of them? Make it easier for you and less chaotic for your dc?
if not sure who to invite, ask your dc or the nursery staff or invite a few whose parties you have been to. It doesn’t matter as long as you are not deliberately excluding one or two (so for example don’t invite 27 or 28 out of the class)
Don’t worry about reciprocation too much - if your dc went to a party they likely took a present and that is enough you don’t ‘have’ to invite them all back.

Re the missing information- perhaps miss off the start time or address and put your mobile number ‘please text for full address when you rsvp’

Kite22 · 07/07/2022 23:19

In August, a LOT will be away, and not able to come even if your dc were older and they were actually friends
Then others will forget what day it is, if they are in 'school holiday mode' (am aware you said toddlers but some will be younger siblings of school age dc and some might have school staff as parents)
Then others will think it a bit odd to be invited to a party by someone they don't know and never intend to come
Then others will genuinely have other commitments and not be able to come.

I doubt if you get 10% turn up.

Blankbias · 07/07/2022 23:22

If you don’t know them well, I’m not sure why you’d invite them? Just invite the people you want to be there for your child’s birthday, if they’re a toddler (guessing 18-24m), then the party is probably more for you anyway?

missbipolar · 07/07/2022 23:25

Why are you inviting everyone if you don't actually have the space for it? Why not just invite a small group?

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Confusedteatowel · 07/07/2022 23:26

@Blankbias I do want them there, just not aaallll of them.

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Blankbias · 07/07/2022 23:35

Confusedteatowel · 07/07/2022 23:26

@Blankbias I do want them there, just not aaallll of them.

Exactly, so just invite the ones you want to be there then?

MuddlingThroughLifeLittleByLittle · 07/07/2022 23:36

Dd invited her whole setting. Which was 28 kids. Age 2 to 4..
25 of them came. Some siblings ( which i agreed to)