Would your partner be familiar with the term Ms?

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Dd came home from school with news of who her teacher will be for next year and when she told DH he said oh Mrs Brown, she sounds great. DD then corrected him and said it's not Mrs Brown, it's Ms Brown as this is obviously what they'd been told in school. DH was very confused, was it Miss or Mrs? He had never heard of the term Ms before and had no idea what it meant. Would your partner have known this?

Mine does because it's what I use

He should be, it's been my title since I married him 20yrs ago.

Definitely, it's in very common use so even if I didn't use it (I do) he'd have seen it on drop downs on forms etc.

Plus there's Ms Marvel

He's taking the piss.

???? Of course he would? Very odd that your DP hasn't heard of it

Erm yes of course. It's a pretty standard term. I'd find this very strange

I have been using Ms since the early 80s.

Yeah because I didn’t marry an idiot

Of course he does, he's been married to a Ms for 20 years. Pretty sure he knew it before that too.

Yes ofc, it's been around as a perfectly normal neutral tag for women for as long as I can remember & I'm old. Not sure if it's just people I know, but I find it's used by all of our lesbian friends

Has he heard of Jersey?

Are you Mrs Rees-Mogg?

Yes I've been a Ms since the early 2000's

I would expect anyone over 40 to know what Ms was as it was so widely used and you would have come across it in work. Not sure about nowadays.

DH knows it as I use it.

Of course. Bit strange that he hasn't.

Honestly I have heard it of course but never known anyone use it. Certainly never any of the DC teachers. At my (professional) work place it is never used. It's all Dear first name Surname, no martial status involved. Not sure DH would ever have heard it spoken aloud. Aren't all those 'status' titles dying a death now?

So how does he address a letter to a woman?Dear Miss/Mrs Smith? Calls first to ask if the woman is married? I would think Ms is the standard in business communication.

Seriously, your DH must have been living under a rock for at least, what, 40 years?

Of course he does. It’s the default term for all women of any age unless they express a preference for an alternate title.

honestly, I would be worried that your partner is belittling equal terms and doesn’t understand the importance of raising a strong, independent daughter in a patriarchal society.

Is your DH from the 17th century?

Yes my dh would have known.

A lot fo my dcs teachers seem to have gone for Ms too. I’d say most of the female teachers are Ms.

I think your DH was being obtuse as he was correct by your DD about a females title.

Does he have previous form with disrespecting women? Your DD was able to understand the term without any difficulty 🙄

Yes OH knows I'm Ms

Yes he knows about it. He's in his 60's.