What does it mean?

[Miercoles]

Just out of curiosity, and because I struggle a bit about etiquette, or just understanding intention/people's actions.

What would you think it meant if you were invited to your husband's family house (gps) who are normally kind to you etc...
And for dinner they told you they had made enough for both of you and not be shy and grab a drink but only gave your husband a plate and cutlery.

I’d ask where my plate and cutlery were or I’d get them myself?

i certainly wouldn’t assume this was a PA dig at me unless there is a huge drip feed of the MIL punching you over Christmas dinner or something

I would assume the plate was for me and DH would get his own plate.

I'd assume they forgot my plate and cutlery

But what if they were surprised you wanted to eat?

Thank you guys for your replies

I’d ignore it entirely and eat if I was hungry?

this really isn’t a thing - is there a massive backstory?

When I came a few months ago a huge argument wit my husband happened where he basically said he wanted me out, I thought we resolved it fully but and I wonder if it is a way for them to tell me I'm unwelcomed

So you and your dh had an argument in front of his gps? And he said he wanted you out? (Of the house? The marriage?)

it's... a bit weird.

Are all parties concerned white british?

Bit odd

So on a separate occasion you argued in front of in-laws and dh said he wanted to separate.

You didn't separate and now you have gone for food and pil seemed reluctant to feed you and you think the two situations are related?

What type of food was it a sit down meal or buffet? What did dh think?

argument aside (hopefully not in front of them) sometimes when i'm serving i get chatting and change up the plating technique from me serving to buffet style. sometimes i serve the person seated first (as my guests always seem reluctant to get to the table despite going on about how good the food looks and smells) then tell people to grab and plate and join the person seated. as you can probably tell very very informal hostess.

You should never argue in front of in-laws. Have you made up with DH, if so he needs to tell his parents.

How odd, my dh would give me his plate and get another one. They're rude!