I give up trying to make friends. I'm 60, and I've only got 1 real friend, and I've done all the putting myself out there, and being friendly, and making the first move, to no avail.
I don't think people actually dislike me, they just don't particularly like me. I'm meh. I don't understand why.
Examples -
I thought I'd started making a new friend recently but I've realised she just needs a convenient ear about her many problems, but when her life is OK, she has no time for me.
My team all work from home and we were talking about how it can be isolating. A colleague lives about 20 mins drive away so I suggested we have a work from home together day at one of our houses. She seemed very enthusiastic. I've suggested 3 dates over the last 12 months and she had a reason each time she couldn't do it. I've stopped asking now as she obviously doesn't want to. She's not mentioned it since.
I invited about 8 people Ive known a long time through friend over, gave them 2 months notice, they all dropped out just before.
A couple we used to see a lot at the pub and got on really well with, asked them over and they said they're still not really going out because of Covid, but we are social media friends and they do.
It's been the same my whole life. I'm friendly, not super needy, don't smell, etc etc.
I give up. It's too hurtful to keep trying and keep not being liked enough to be more than an acquaintance. Always the person on the periphery of any friendship group.
I'm feeling sorry for myself but think I need to accept it now and come to terms with not being very likeable.
Anyone else in the same boat?