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drumroll · 02/07/2022 17:03

Hello Everyone,

Over the last 12 months I have had 2 miscarriages. The first pregnancy wasn't planned but we were delighted. Sadly no heartbeat at 9 weeks and I took it really badly. I got pregnant again 2 months later - I did this thinking it would make me feel better but upon reflection, I wasn't thinking right and was neither mentally or physically ready. Sadly that pregnancy ended at 6 weeks.

I have since had a few consultations with my GP and I've been given the all clear with no reason as to why I miscarried. I absolutely feel ready to try again now. However my work have recently nominated me to do a trainee management course and at the end, I will have a guaranteed job at 15k more than what I earn at present. The course take 1.5 years to complete and by then I'll be 35.

I know my age is going to work against me for any future pregnancy. I am desperate to get pregnant again and have my own family but the course would offer me financial stability and I would be in a better position to support a child. We don't own our home and have never been able to save for a deposit, so the extra income would be so helpful.

Should I wait it out until I finish the training? I feel I might regret this decision.

OP posts:
purpledagger · 03/07/2022 08:04

Do both.

Pregnancy is 9 months, so you will probably have completed a decent chunk of your courses by the time your baby is due and there will be ways for you to complete your course with a baby.

user1494050295 · 03/07/2022 08:17

Agree life happens and do both

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