Feel so embarrassed about being overweight

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I don't know if it's me or if there's a shift in society but I feel ashamed and embarrassed of being overweight. I am trying but it seems so hard to lose weight. I'm finding it difficult to deal with it now and I'm starting to lose confidence in myself.
I almost feel embarrassed to be out and so aware that I'm usually the biggest amongst my family and friend. Everyone around me is slim.
I'm on the borderline of being obese and just don't want to tip into that.
I want to be a normal weight so much. To look good in clothes, to feel comfortable and to be healthier would mean sooooo much but I can't seem to get there.
Can anyone relate to this?

It has changed my life - sounds silly but I used to be a slave to food and panic if I didn't have a snack or two in my handback in case I got hungry. Now I don't even think about food in-between meals. It just goes to show the power habits have on our actions.

@Madickenxx this really resonates for me. Our mind and habits take a while to re-set, and it isn't easy to do, but it can really free up your head space. Most of my time was thinking about food, or admonishing myself about the last thing I ate...

I hear you OP and I put 2 stone on over lockdown that I still haven't shifted, realistically I need to lose 3 stone. What has helped me is not following any particular "diet" but sticking to 3 meals a day and not snacking inbetween.

Snacking for me was the killer as I could have a reasonably healthy dinner then hit the biscuits later in the evening. What I did at first was whenever I wanted a snack, I ate one really spicy cracker. Random I know but it kind of shocked my brain into being mindful of exactly when I was snacking and I've found after a week or so that not having a snack in the evening has become normal, I just have a cup of tea. So much of this is habits.

If I have one meal that's less healthy or I don't make great food choices one day then I compensate for it and make better choices the next time. This is what my very slim sister does naturally....if she goes out for a big meal one evening the next day she consciously eats less, or chooses a salad etc.

I can't pretend I have the answers, I definitely have a lot of work to do myself but you are not alone OP.

Don't feel bad about not wanting to get up first thing and go for bike rides or runs etc. Find exercise that you enjoy and do that instead. People forget walking is great exercise too 🙂

I totally understand how you feel, I've put on lots of weight in pregnancy and now feel pretty unattractive now DD is born. But am trying not to beat myself up. As a society we are too obsessed with how women look. We also tend to believe that a 'normal' shape and size is the same as a slim 21 year old woman. Even before pregnancy when I was a size 12, I had to accept I don't have the type of body shape that gets put in adverts or models clothes. But it wouldn't be fair on myself to expect to.

I've recently lost weight. It was the realisation that I don't burn enough calories to eat sweet things so I stopped. However I've now plateaud at just above where I want to be. Hoping as I take a holiday I will walk it off.

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