12 yr old dd hair removal options please?

[Privateandconfidentialplease]

My 12 year old dd asked me if she could shave her legs. Just looking for advice really. I would rather she didn't but it bothers her changing in pe. She is not very hairy.
What method is best? Hair removal creams, shaving or waxing?
Thanks

My dd shaves as do i

I used to have my legs waxed as a teen til mid 20's and then I shaved but it is such a hassle I wasn't sure if a removal cream would be better.

I don’t know why she’s a) asked for permission and b) you’d rather she didn’t. What happened to bodily autonomy?

My DM was like you. Spouted all kinds of crap about how the hair would grow back thicker etc, wouldn’t buy me a razor. So I bought my own razors one day and cut my legs to ribbons. That was aged 12 after being bullied relentlessly for having hairy legs. Not nice in year 7.

I swore I would never do the same for my DDs. Aged ten, I mentioned it casually one day. It was the summer and the elder was wearing a skirt and her dark leg hair was quite noticeable. I didn’t push other way, just said if she wanted to that was fine and I’d get her what she needed. A few weeks later she said she wanted to go ahead. I bought her some decent razors and shaving foam and helped her. Same again next week. Now she does it herself in the bath and adds what she needs to the shopping list. No drama. Her legs, her body, her choice. I’ve also been quick to point out that it is perfectly acceptable not to shave too.

Yeah my dd is 18 and although she shaves there can be weeks between shavings. I regularly wait 2 weeks before doing mine. Thinks its part laziness tbh

We like the olay razors with the soap bits although still use a bit of shaving gel too

If she's not very hairy, she could try an epilator. She'll need to exfoliate to prevent ingrown hairs.

My dd found razors too scary and tricky. So she now uses a lady shave electric. Seems a lot safer for her (her fine motor skills aren't great) and she's not had any problems.

I think it’s completely appropriate for a child to ask first before altering her own body using razors.
I’m not saying she shouldn’t be allowed to but I thinks totally normal that she should come and ask her mum first!

@Tentpegsandtantrums I don’t know why she’s a) asked for permission and b) you’d rather she didn’t. What happened to bodily autonomy?
I think you may have just answered your own question...

So I bought my own razors one day and cut my legs to ribbons

@WestendVBroadway - no, not really. I had asked repeatedly and wasn’t allowed to. Thankfully times have moved on and I think it’s more about safe facilitation these days as opposed to control (as my DM and some of my friends’ DMs saw it). I’m old though!

I've told my year 7 DD that all options are open and that we would look at them together. I think it will be a long time before she looks at any painful options such as waxing/ laser/ epilation and she's not ready to try a razor. She uses a lady shave for her legs and underarms once a week and cream for her upper lip. She's not a great fan of the cream but it's the best option for her right now for that area and she does it weekly or every other week.

DD started shaving at 8. Razor and shaving foam. Never had any problems.

My 11 year old has started shaving her legs - I had some Wilkinson Intuition ready in the cupboard for when she felt ready. No need for soap or foam. She gets on very well with them.

@Smartiepants79 - but what happens if the parent says no? That was my experience. Obviously one would hope it was a grown up discussion about options and so on but that’s not always the case. I’d get it if it were ear piercing or something more permanent but the hair will grow back.

Woah there. You need to check yourself and stand still because you are jumping to conclusions.
I have a great relationship with my daughter. We are really open with each other and she knows she can come to me and talk about anything and she does. Why would you write that I am like your dm spouting loads of crap etc. You don't know me. She was only asking so I could buy her the shaving stuff. I think you need to stfu and go back under your stone.
I just thought razors can be a hassle and perhaps removal cream might be better or there are also those weird hair removal stones. I was just asking for friendly advice.

Thank you for the helpful replies.

Blabla81 I have ordered a Wilkinson intuition so thank you.

@Privateandconfidentialplease I personally find shaving better than hair removal cream. I don't like the smell of it or how it makes my skin feel afterwards, plus I always seem to miss bits. I'd just go for razors if I were your DD.

I'd go for waxing personally as it lasts atleast 4 weeks and the skin is so smooth.

I have thick hair so shaving makes my legs and arms look like a man's chin 😩

Taught my 10 year old to shave with a razor and a good quality foam. She started her periods at 8 and it all became too much. Show her how to do it safely, use good quality products.

If you can get on with a deliporator the hairs weaken and you don't need to do it very often. Legs aren't bad but underarms are painful.

Buy her a decent razor and she'll be fine. She needs to learn sometime.

Yes. She does need to learn at some point. I have ordered her a razor and nice foam.

I have seen something doing the rounds on social media but it could be crap, it's an item that fits into the palm of your hand and using friction I suppose it removes the hair.

But many of the reviews are saying its pain free and not at all hot.

Could that be doable?

My 13yr old fortunately hasn't started, but I don't do it myself at all so she might not, but I've offered to buy something for hair removal but she's not interested.

@MayMoveMayNot thats the Magic Crystal. I bought one. Its like sandpaper and removes the hair by friction. Its very easy to use but tedious. It DOES leave your skin super baby soft and seens to exfoliate at the sane time. Regrowth is quick though as it just rubs off the hair tip rather than removing it. I use a mix of my epilator and the Magic Crystal.