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DD11 theme park tomorrow

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bro101 · 30/06/2022 10:16

DD nearly 11 is going to a theme park tomorrow. I'm quite nervous. Not about the rides but only a certain number of kids are going who she isn't close with.

Any tips. I've told her not to keep using her phone so the battery doesn't go. I can also track her but she is 3 hours away so that isn't much use to me.

When my dd10 reaches that age I would be more relaxed but dd11 is a bit more anxious.

Thanks.

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youcantparktheresir · 30/06/2022 11:05

What does DD think? If she's happy to go, even with a group of children that she isn't 'close with' I think she'll be fine?

She had her phone and can contact you if needed, as long as she wants to go she will be fine OP.

AWobABobBob · 30/06/2022 11:07

Is she nervous or are you projecting your own anxiety onto her unnecessarily?

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 30/06/2022 11:09

DD (yr6, age 11) went on a school trip to Alton Towers recently.
No mobiles allowed (so they didn't get broken/ lost)
They stayed in small groups (8kids, 2 staff)
They all had a great time.

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Flyinggeese1234 · 30/06/2022 11:43

Hi OP is it a school trip or something else? Enough adults per child ratio etc?

PineappleWilson · 30/06/2022 11:50

I'd tell her not to take her phone. Why does she need a phone on a school trip? Once she's been on a few rides, she'll have that in common with other children and can talk about their experiences, favourite rides etc. She'll be fine.

Lindy2 · 30/06/2022 11:58

Is it a school trip? 3 hours away seems a bit bonkers. Nevertheless, if it's with school there will be adult supervision so I think you are being a little over protective.

Is it a trip organised by the children or another adult? I'm assuming an adult is involved to get them there and back as it's a long journey. If so just text her from time to time to check in. They'll be on rides having fun so they don't all need to be best friends to have a good time.

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bro101 · 30/06/2022 20:27

Hi yes going with school. The teachers are going to be there but aren't walking around with them.

Dd also said they can't take money but only a card no cash?

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Floralnomad · 30/06/2022 20:31

If she’s nearly 11 she must still be primary school so surely the teachers/ assistants still go round with the groups and why would they expect them all to have bank cards . Very strange , I’m not sure if it was mine she would be going at all .

FriendlyPineapple · 30/06/2022 20:34

Not really seeing the problem with a school trip tbh 🤷🏻‍♀️

00100001 · 30/06/2022 20:36

They're taking 10year olds to a theme park 3 hours away for the day?
They'll only be there a few hours. DD will spend most of her day on the coach.
Batshit.

00100001 · 30/06/2022 20:36

bro101 · 30/06/2022 20:27

Hi yes going with school. The teachers are going to be there but aren't walking around with them.

Dd also said they can't take money but only a card no cash?

That's to stop kids taking £100 in cash, and then losing it or getting it stolen.

FawnFrenchieMum · 30/06/2022 20:37

bro101 · 30/06/2022 20:27

Hi yes going with school. The teachers are going to be there but aren't walking around with them.

Dd also said they can't take money but only a card no cash?

Majority of AT is card only that’s correct. Only a few places take cash.

Mrsjayy · 30/06/2022 20:38

If she is happy to go without close friends then it might be you that's over anxious you don't need to be tracking her phone. Does she have a bank card ?

skgnome · 30/06/2022 20:42

It’s a school trip, she’ll be fine, what are you concerned about?
surely she has a couple of friends she can hang out with?
tell her to stick with her friends, stay in a group, keep an eye on times, she’ll have a great time!
most places don’t take cash, and it’s to avoid kids loosing the cash… same with phones
if you’re anxious, give her a note of your number - just make sure it’s on a place that cannot be lost - sharpie on the label of a tshirt?

skgnome · 30/06/2022 20:45

Also, do you have a debit card she can use? Only works if you have 2 accounts…, move money out of your bank account, leave there whatever you’re happy for her to spend / loss give her the card
you can even track online if she needs a bit extra… maybe put 30 and tell her she has 20 to avoid OD?

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bro101 · 30/06/2022 20:45

She's not anxious no she doesn't think about anything. Her friends aren't going. Only 18 from each year have been chosen for their behaviour which is a bit odd.

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bro101 · 05/07/2022 08:27

Hi all. So she went.

This trip was a treat for the top 20 kids from each year who received the most behaviour points.

I had asked her who she knew was going. She asked around but no one replied. She mentioned 3 girls. 2 are best friends the third doesn't know these girls.

Dd said she probably be with the 3rd girl who she doesn't know as well or the other two. One she gets on well with the second not so much.

They get there she asked asked if she could be with both sets of girls, they all said no. The 3rd girl had her best friends there. Everyone walked off. She stood there and luckily saw a teacher who told her to go with either group but dd said she had asked. She was told to go with the 3rd girl and her friend. The 3rd girl spoke a bit. Her friend didn't say a word to dd. Dd didn't speak to her either as she could tell she wasn't wanted. Yes dd should have made an effort but she's like me so thought I better not speak if they aren't speaking to me.

I think it's such a strange set up. Non of these4 are particularly her friends. She's close to one but she had a friend she knows better and dd doesn't like her friend after being cruel in the past and knowing my dd will have made it obvious.

It's not the kids fault I get that they didn't want her. It's not the teachers fault either. If she gets picked next year she said she won't go. I'm not sure what can be done but the anxiety I had leading up to it was right. She went to buy food and these two girls had left her so she sat on her own until it was time to leave.

I have major anxiety and autism and I can't stop thinking about it.

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Pleaseletmeconfirm · 05/07/2022 09:15

I think the school was at fault here. It's wierd to arrange an outing for the tip kids and the teacher was lazy to just tell
your daughter to go with the others. How stupid can a teacher be not to try and make sure your daughter was ok.

Floralnomad · 05/07/2022 09:36

I really think you should complain to the school about this , the groups should have been sorted out and it should have been enforced that they stay together . Weird set up all round really .

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bro101 · 05/07/2022 18:38

Thank you. I'm ott with my kids so I thought I was being silly. I'm still upset thinking about it now. I'm not sure whether they've done this before but if so other parents must have complained the previous years?

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Floralnomad · 05/07/2022 18:41

That’s the thing though everyone thinks someone else will complain or it’s not worth it because nothing will happen but I find it quite cathartic to complain when necessary .

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