Does anyone else never have visitors to the house?

[Boxjumpers918]

I've just realised this is probably very odd. We live in a town where we know people (colleagues, DC parents, neighbours) but none of them well enough that they'd come to our house (announced or otherwise). DC have their friends over frequently but we get almost no adult visitors.

When we see our actual friends we always arrange a meal or night out or a trip/activity somewhere. They all live around an hours drive away so we tend to meet half way. Our parents do visit but it's too far to come unannounced so we all know they're coming and most of the time we make the drive to them as they're getting older now.

No siblings, lots of extended family but none of them bother with us (gave up trying to maintain relationships a long time ago).

I dont know if this is abit sad. As an introvert I kind of love it! I can fully relax in my own home knowing the doors never going to go. Anyone else in a similar situation?

I don’t think it’s odd or sad as it obviously works for you.

I dislike people coming over. It might be an introvert thing

I only have people over very rarely - if they are dropping something off, for example. I don’t have kids and live alone. When I socialise with my friends it’s usually something outdoorsy; hiking, cycling, allotment, or we go out to dinner. I’m an introvert and don’t entertain at home.

We rarely have guests.

Mainly because have a small house and we live rurally, so it's easier to all meet up at a pub, restaurant or the beach instead.

I have zero issue with people coming over but it's just more convenient to meet up elsewhere!

I think I've probably subconsciously discouraged it over the years as I really hate not having an end point to a visit and you can't exactly kick people out after an hour! I'd rather meet up somewhere else where you know the time things will wrap up or I'd rather visit other people and then you can make your excuses to go once you've had enough.

Me neither and I really miss it. I live alone, my house used to be the place where my friendship group always met up but I moved a long way and haven’t made those friendships yet.

I go out with colleagues or meet people to do outdoorsy stuff but none of that is close enough to home to have them round.

Fairly similar here. I grew up in a home with people coming and going all the time. My parents were great hosts and had lots of friends. I liked it at the time but it was a big house and the people weren't my responsibility, and looking back I realise although I liked the buzz, I tended to make myself scarce after a while.
When my chidren were small I enjoyed their friends coming in, and I'd love to shove the kid mess aside and have their parents in for a cuppa and natter.
Never been confident enough in my cooking/hosting skills to 'entertain' officially, so no dinner parties etc.
Just me and DH now and life has evolved to the point where it's usually just our adult children coming over. They are our favourite people still ❤ Otherwise we both relish the ability to pull up the drawbridge, so no I don't think you're odd, @Boxjumpers918
We also do our socialising outside our home and I really like it that way!
If our neighbours give us any thought at all (doubtful in our busy street!) they'd probably imagine we have no friends at all 😄

Why don't you invite some people you like, but don't know that well, over for dinner?
I don't want to sound trite but someone in a new relationship has to be the first one to do the inviting.
I've read so many threads on here about people not having friends but then also saying how they love being an introvert. I think the word is used as an excuse to not get out of your comfort zone.
Sometimes extroverts get fed up of doing all the leg work. Give it a go, you might like and make some brilliant friendships.

soundofsilver inviting people I don't know well over for dinner is my idea of hell! I do have friends. I was just interested to see of others are in the same boat, not looking to change anything really.

No, I never have anyone over.

We rarely have visitors ...in fact I can't remember the last time ...well apart from adult daughters and their husbands but they are family not visitors !

I don't think I've ever really enjoyed having people to the house.

Since the pandemic I seem to have turned into someone who doesn't like seeing more than one or two people at a time!
Slowly becoming a hermit!

I feel the same. Don't care to host dinners. Too much hassle. I like peace in my own home.

We are very much like this, Christmas is the only exception. My close friends love to entertain and live in big houses (we have no spare rooms), so we tend to go to them, my family live in holdiay type areas so again it's us that travels and I tend to meet my local friends at a cafe - not sad at all

We do have family over a couple of times a year but it's always pre arranged.
We socialise outdoors or restaurants

I used to have a friend who would pop in from time to time but she moved away. It was great as it made sure my house was always tidy, just in case!

We have not a friend or family member between us!! Since Covid dc haven't wanted anyone over either.. Proper recluses us!

I don't drop in on people without texting first. Nobody would drop in on me without texting first. I'm retired. I would usually be out or having visitors that were prearranged. It would be very odd and awkward if someone else turned up and joined in. You have to drive to get to my house so nobody would ever' just drop in'

Well it's not sad if that is the way you like it.

I personally would be sad if people didn't come to my house, but you've said you prefer it that way, so why would it be sad ?

I have a shit tonne of friends. Rarely have visitors. People want to come over but I do t let them (apart from a few exceptions). I like my home as a sanctuary. Kids have friends over regularly though.

OP, we are similar - we very occasionally have close friends round for a meal, but mostly our home is our private sanctuary. Suits us.

Very very rarely. I'm not very sociable so meeting someone for the occasional dog walk is about it!
Neither DH or I have many friends and the few we have we see rarely...him at his hobby, and I sometimes meet with the odd friend at a cafe, but pretty much only our adult kids and partners just pitch up home (and raid the cupboards )
I prefer it like that.. my home is my sanctuary for me and my family!

Don’t have visitors and love it that way
call me what you want, I am what I am

This. If it works for you, surely it’s not ‘sad’. It would be sad for me, as I like entertaining, but I’m not you.

But you seem to be talking implicitly about unexpected visitors, which I think is a different thing. If you’d like to have your actual friends in your house at a prearranged time, ask them for dinner? It’s not going to mean they start showing up unannounced.

Rarely have guests but. I immediate family really to invite! I think that sometimes life gets in the way we both work and have 2 young kids and I really can't be bothered entertaining people during my free time and I prefer to have play dates at softplay/ trampoline park, local farm park, national trust places etc the thought of hoards of people in our not very big house makes me uncomfortable 😣