Started my new job today and I hate it 😭

[Meltinthemiddle]

Like really, really hate it. Its a care role with young adults with complex needs. I can't explain how I feel but I feel physically sick about going back there tomorrow 🤮. I've worked with sen children which I did love it but I was constantly getting hurt due to lack of support from senior leaders and so I only left because I didn't feel safe at times but actually loved the job and working with the children. This role has young adults with more physical and health needs or learning disabilities. There was so much to take in, so much admin alot of of sitting around, but also lone working and expectation to cook and drive company van which I wasn't expecting. I just felt like walking out. I don't want to go back tomorrow and I can't go back to my other job. But the thought is making my physically ill😭

Life is too short, don't go back. You don't owe them anything, it's just not for you.
I work in a challenging sector, folk come for induction then we never see them again.

At the very least call HR. Don't just not show up tomorrow. Check there wouldn't be repercussions for you.

I am going in tomorrow. But next shift is Monday only found out via email! I just don't get a good vibe from the staff about how it is run even though this seemed to be huge selling point on their FB page. I feel really trapped. If I lose 3 days pay then I'm not bothered to be honest and I won't be using them as a reference. I do feel bad thought because I though I could do it but adults with complex needs is not for on top of all the other stuff.

I don't think the issue with this job is the adults with complex needs, but the fact they're a dodgy establishment! Because that's the only way to explain them hiring a person without telling them something as important as you'll be cooking and you'll be driving.
Talk to HR in the morning, find out whether you can bail out without paying anything, depending on the answer just bugger off at the end of tomorrow for good, or hand in your notice and leave at the end of your notice.

Thank you everyone for your support. I just have this fear of once I get to know everyone I will find it harder to leave and get more sucked in. And I don't want to be stuck out of guilt. On Wednesday I could have left and not looked back. When I worked in a SEN school I thought WTF the first day but I did have excitement because the staff were amazing and I wanted to be like them but this I just feel a sickness in the pit of my stomach. Worried about what I would have to pay or repercussions if I don't see my notice.

OP, I feel for you, nothing's worse than having to spend time in a place where we don't want to be. An hour's terrible but a week sounds like agony.
Still, just talk to HR and get it done with. From what you said before I don't think other staff is particularly happy, so just be brave, you won't be sucked in.
If I were you I would take two letters with me: one saying I'm off today bye bye, and one saying I'm staying for a week and them I'm off. Depending on the chat with HR just hand in the right one.

I hated my job after a couple of months. Stayed almost two years and my mental health was just wrecked.

I've come from...and gone to...an identical situation!
I was a TA in special school (17 years there) and very competent in my role, but fed up with the government crap thrust upon us.
Moved 2.5 months ago to an adult county council support services job.

Felt completely out of my depth.. yep expected to drive a minibus, (only had two goes in one and they are all different!) cook, take services users all over the place, peg feeds (that actually is dead easy..I've done them before anyway, but honestly it's easy)

I came home after the first day thinking SHIT what have I done?

But.... two months in I'm beginning to find my feet... getting to know the people we support and my colleagues. I hate feeling incompetent (compared to my old job) but NO-ONE arrives knowing the job in this sort of work..it takes time!

I've told them not to leave me in charge of cooking though!!! And also warned them they may lose a wing mirror or two picking up service users...

I'm not enjoying it yet, but I am begining to feel less worried. I'm giving myself 6 months to acclimatise.
Give it time.. no one can learn all the new stuff in a week or a month!

Honestly I wouldn't even bother going back if you hated it so much

Trust your instincts

Thank you everyone. Stillmedusa that really is the same situation. I will see how I feel today its alot to get used to I know but I do have that sinking feeling in my tummy.

They probably will take ot our of your pay.

I have been in jobs in the past where I have known on the first day it wasn't for me. However, I have usually gone in for a couple more days, just to check I was right. But if it's exactly the same, you really hate it and can't face going in, then leave. Let them know and explain you've realised that's it's not as you thought and really isn't for you, you're sorry, and go. As other pp have said, life is too short....

I started a job five weeks ago and on day one I detested it. What made it worse was I’d had two job offers and I knew instantly I’d picked the wrong one. 😩 There’s been no training. There’s a complete bitch that works there. I felt very much chucked in at the deep end. I’ve stuck with it and now I actually really like it! Maybe give it a week and look for other jobs.

I think it's really normal to feel like this Ona first day. I also felt like this on my first day at current job - felt so overwhelmed and so much to take on board. Very different to the job I was expecting. Even 2 years on when doing training on things in beer expected to be in my job role I think I'm never going to be able to do all that I always manage and now a whizz are a lot of it and others come to me for help. Definitely give it a chance.

Thanks everyone, another thing I'm finding difficult is that they seem short staffed, staff are moaning and having to do alot of overtime. Staff are talking behind backs and I'm just getting an uneasy atmosphere. I don't want to get sucked in.

Did you talk to anyone from HR today OP?

No I didn't because I have seen anyone from management they are always in meetings. Going to think it over the weekend. What attracted me about the company was the fact they advertise as being great managers who value and treat their staff well and have people who enjoy working here obvs not the case 😔

You sound utterly miserable and that can't all be down to being new on the job. Talk to your partner or to a good friend, sb who knows you well, they'll know whether you can grow to love it or if it isn't going to happen.

How are you getting on meltinthemiddle?
Having sounded all positive in my post...a week later I have realised the job isn't for me either!
I miss being with kids too much and frankly I'm bored..adult services are so much slower at doing anything! I'm hoping to go back to my old place on supply, not looking forward to the embarrassment of quitting tho (or working my notice!)

Stillmedusa well I've managed to get a grip of the situation after initially freaking out and I'm rolling with it at the moment due to needing the money. I've read all my policies etc and it says after a month I need to give a week's notice doesn't mention anything about before that or the cost of anything etc. I'm using it as a learning experience but i've also just joined an agency so I'm going with it until the end of the month as I can't afford not to work as seeing how the agency is. It's just completely different to what I was expecting in some ways it's alot easier in other ways it feels alot of responsibility and often working alone. Wasn't expecting to do the meds, cooking or drive a van not at entry level.et us know how you get on. Its so hard isn't it the thought of not having an income with rising cost of living is not doing my anxiety any good.