I'm widowed and happily single. If opportunity comes I'm happy to have a date, but I'm not looking and I certainly don't want to "settle down" again.
I know a man, divorced for c. 8 years and makes no secret of the fact that he is not happily single. To my knowledge he's had 3 "serious" relationships in that time and done a lot of searching.
He's nice enough, but a bit dull. Comes across as a bit moany and miserable, can't often see the good in things. If I bump into him in, say Tesco, we'll chat for a few minutes, but it's awkward, nothing flows. It feels a bit like a business networking thing (which I hate) where I don't particularly want to talk to the person but it's my job to make an effort! Occasionally we'll message about something in the news or the football, but it's very bland impersonal messages and no long threads.
On the plus, he has a good group of varied friends (m&f) who all seem to think a lot of him, despite him not being the life and soul, he's moderately good looking and takes care of himself, in good shape for a man about to turn 50. Solvent and intelligent.
But he's not for me, there's nothing "there" and I don't want what he wants anyway.
So why is he always on my mind?!